I really doubt the 13 year old has a clue about the real world of being a Playmate, or rock star. The adults in that house should not be contributing to the insanity. They should be trying to explain that a lot of people do things for money, that they shouldn't. Robbing banks is not a career to aspire to. A 13 year old should not be longing for the day that she can get paid to get nekkid.
These "adults" will so regret this when the girl gets preggers before finishing high school, cuz she got so good at nekkid. It really does not pay so well at that age. Or perhaps they will decide to call BC pills career essentials.
Shades, for a long time I tried hard to protect my kids. I made sure to be happy guy, never mention the STBX and I, and never get mad at them. Unfortunately this was overkill.
Your daughter needs to see you get upset sometimes. Life is not perfect. We all worry so much about showing our kids how to be happy adults and grow up to be good people that we forget that a big part of what made us who we are today were the trials and tribulations that we learned from growing up.
It is important to teach our children that having disagreements, people tell you they are upset, and misunderstandings in their lives is ok. It's how you deal with those issues that develops your character.
I will make a suggestion, sit down again with D9 and discuss how you got upset. Why you got upset, that you are no longer upset. That people do get mad at each other and the best way to get over that is through being honest with each other.
Turn this whole thing into a positive for D9, and educational tool for conflict resolution. These are the lessons that define your role as a parent. The good shitt is easy, the tough lessons are what creates bonds between children and their parents.
You are doing great shades, try and remember that none of us are professional parents. We merely do the best we can and try and make the appropriate decisions on the upbringing of our kids. IMHO, your kids have one hell of a role model and as they grow older their bond with you will be very strong because of how you have handled your parental responsibilities throughout this very tough time in your life and theirs.
Take care of yourself, and for goodness sakes stop being so hard and over judgmental of your own actions. You are stronger than you give yourself credit for.
Kiki, I tried to tell him that ow has no place dicussing this stuff with our kids. He blew me off. D9 said he called ow in the room with them when they were talking and said that if she was going to be part of him life she needed to be in on the conversation. He is so unreasonable.
So, once and for all, she can put to rest any outlandish and ridiculous notion that this ow is in any way on the same planet as her. WHAT????
If nothing else this weekend put an end to me thinking ow is in ANY way better than I am. I mean what kind of person, let alone MOTHER lets her 13 year old D have Playboy crap in her room????
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My parents would have sent me to boarding school on Mars if they thought I wanted to be a Playmate, much less a model. I could not even seriously think of it without making myself barf and feel so ashamed for wanting to do that.
I would have been at the Mars Boarding School for Delinquent Girls right with you. LOL!!!
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The adults in that house should not be contributing to the insanity. They should be trying to explain that a lot of people do things for money, that they shouldn't. Robbing banks is not a career to aspire to. A 13 year old should not be longing for the day that she can get paid to get nekkid.
Thank you so much for your kind words and wonderful advise. I will sit down with D9 and explain those things and then I will let it go.
I do want her to learn that you can have disagreements with people and it doesn't have to end badly.
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IMHO, your kids have one hell of a role model and as they grow older their bond with you will be very strong because of how you have handled your parental responsibilities throughout this very tough time in your life and theirs.
This is one of the nicest compliments I have ever received. Thank you.
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stop being so hard and over judgmental of your own actions
