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thanks CM. How are you doing these days?

okay, haven't posted recently.. tryin to think what has happened lately.

been trying to keep the house neat. H has also talked to me again about how he thinks I'm on here to much.

Last night he came out of the room and I guess I flipped over from DB to something else... however, I had been on the something else for 20 min (a long bible reading) and had just flipped to DB and so I didn't want him to think I was on the DB all night since I was doing bills and other stuff for most of it. Well, he comes up right behind me then says why do you always click off, and there goes the convo. he said he watched me do it the night before too. I'm trying to think, and totally don't remember doing it. I told him I flip back and forth constantly so it could be total coincidenc.e anyways, he didn't much believe me. I told him, go ahead and click back over I don't care. it was blindsided's thread in regards to her seeing pics of OW. I was writing back and had put on there how I saw a half naked pic and she was like a playboy model, made me feel real good-blech"

well, I almost think he musta read that part because today he said at work he let his coworkers see my myspace pics and text me that everyone thought I was hot. !!! I actually started crying when I saw that text, I have always wanted my H to act like he had a great wife and was proud to show her off. so it was really cool.

oh, but then I guess he did send me a comment to myspace (I have asked him before what in the world do i have to do to get a comment from my hubby!) so I finally got one! it was before he snooped on me on the comp... think he was trying to get me to go to bed.

anyways, he kept questioning, are you sure your not emailing someone. I kinda smiled/half laughing, no, no. But it made me feel good that he was feeling this way, that he really cares. And I also told him thank you for saying something instead of not.

I think I'll be REALLy nice to him tonight

I went back and reread a lot of your old posts. I am so happy that you are in the place you are!

It's funny because while my H and I were still living together, I was in your H's position, but my H was hiding porn sites, Craig's List personals, and IM conversations with OW. I sympathize with it making him curious/suspicious. It's probably better if you don't flip over and just let him see what you are doing, especially if you are posting on other people's threads and not journaling on your own.

It seems like the computer stuff is a continuing issue. I know you are busy during the day and need to do stuff in the evenings, but maybe underneath his complaining he is really saying I don't like that you are on the computer instead of doing something with me. He's just saying it in a unclear way perhaps?

ST - wow, those are some great positives!! Seems like he's been opening up a tiny bit more lately (and seems you have too, maybe?). Hey my H said the same thing when he saw your MySpace page..

that's a great way to look at it MichelleLT,

I actually haven't been on for 4 days, plus we had our 6 year anni the other day. yeah!

and it's 11:30, so I better go!!!!!!!!

thanks Nik! my H did take the pic and put it in a frame he had bought a while back. it's on his dresser now. I almost feel weird too. seems kinda strange. but he doesn't have an office at work, he works in a truck all day, so guess he wouldn't have a place for it anyways, unless in his car, and that's kinda childish, as we've noted on blindsided1's thread.

guess it's just weird that he actually HAS a pic of me. that's never happened before. with him, that is.

Wow that is really cool!! I'm excited for you. And yeah, glad it's not in his truck, that's a little weird..

thanks Nik. The only bad thing that happens when these good things happen is I start hoping I'll have MORE good things. They are so few and far between, and when nothings happened, I'm okay, and feel like I'm used to it, hoping for something, but not expecting, then if something DOES happen, it's like it's not enough and I need more or something. Did I already say this? I feel like I'm having dejavu. My minds been running crazy lately. I depo'd money in the wrong acct, got late fees and returned check fees, and another acct went OD like 20 bucks. ug.

Guess I'm not focussed like I should be.

hmmmmm. I worked out all last week, but have done almost nothing this week. not all my fault, but I could have done something though.

need to get my priorities in life back together.

It's really hard to keep your expectations low.

Working out really helps - the endorphins and everything will make you feel better. I know I get bad about working out when life and work get busy, but I handle it better if I am working out. Keep making yourself happy hon.