That's exactly who we are! But when we get together we have some fun. I met up with some DBers this weekend and we really cut a rug at the Whirl & Twirl dance hall in Orlando. Maybe she would like to join us.
LS: Most of us are indeed prisoners. We are trapped in cells with spouses who, as a whole, do not care about marriage and commitment. We are imprisoned, left to care for our children, while our spouses are free to do as they please, and act irresponsibly. At "lights out" we are where we are supposed to be. We are not tunneling out. We are here to do our life sentence...
Things seem to be happening here. w initiates talking to me about daily stuff a little. she offered for me to stay in bed after misshap last night to throw d11 off. I declined and said i wanted to return when she was ready to recommit, and didnt want to intrude on her space. Some friends of ours stayed in seperate bdrooms for a while and it was a moment when she asked him to join her back in their room.
She brought up om wants to come to MN over Labor Day. I told her i'm tired of the summer being about her. I want to go camping. I don't want to go with you, I want to go with w thats commited to me. Overall she doesnt want to hurt anybodys feelings. After a civil talk i told her we cant do it on our own we need mc to help work through our issues. She said that staying with me would be easy way out. I said it wont be easy, I see alot of hard work. She is so torn and i feel it could still go either way.
She talked herself out of letting him come, guilt of leading him on, couldnt lie to d20 again. I know that could change. She is torn.
You are doing great! You have planted the seeds of doubt in her fantasy of moving on. And she is acting on it. You can expect her to be sad over the loss of her OM. But hopefully you will be doing such good stuff as a family that he just can't compete.
Boy are you right, staying is NOT the easy way out. Funny thing, there is no easy way out. It was only an easy way in.
Sounds great to me, Now don't be like me and let some stupid little thing throw you off course. YOU are Winning her back. I see the same here with my W. but it is a slow process.
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
I would like to ask you a couple of questions as you have shared that in the past you had a couple of A's. If this is too personal, please feel free not to answer, I will understand. I just wanted to know from a man's perspective what were you getting from the OW. Was it an ego thing, and had nothing to do with your W? Was it the way the OW made you feel about yourself? Were you able to be someone you really weren't? Did you think it would be the chance to start a new life? Did you play a different role with the OW then you did with your W.
I'm sorry if I have intruded on your privacy. There are so many of us W's out here and we would love to get inside of our H's minds. My H has told me that I'm near perfect and there isn't anything he would change about me. So how do you explain that. The only thing I can come up with is that the OW is 25 years my junior, but if you put us both in a room together, you would never guess that. So what did you get?
Faith
H 48 W 57 M 15 yrs T 18 yrs No children EA 1/12/06 Moved out 3/10/07 & 8/16/07 Back on 5/18/07 2nd Thread
I am with Faith and I have the same questions. I wonder about the playing a role thing b/c I htink my H is on his best behavior and tell me how long will that last? WHen he has our girls over at OW place he is the perfect dad! No yelling nad yes to all their wishes. Before H would not even let the girls listen to radio Disney while in his car but since OW does let her child then he does too. My H is bipolar and I am waiting for his evil side show up,but this is woman soooooo deperate she might overlook it.
