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Tomato,

If things are really getting to you.. just stop and focus on something that does get you excited.. like your truck shopping. A major purchase like that can be all consuming and maybe you need it to be so you can gather your strength?

I haven't done any research or anything but I must say that I do like the Toyota Tacohma in Blue!!

Things will get better.. we just have to get through the lows so we can get back up to the highs... it's a rollercoaster ride unfortunately.

thanks iwanna, s.t. imade, w2g & all,

just when i thought i had made it through the day yesterday, call came fm my mom that dad had heart attack. when it rains it pours, i guess. his condition is showing good signs as of this hour, fortunately.

needless to say my faith is lightly shaken & i am wondering when God will revert back to a more gentler touch on my life.

I hope your father recovers completely. I lost one of my grandparents during my sitch, so I know how difficult things can be on top of all that is going on....

My prayers are with you. How's his status today? Check in and let us know if you get a chance.

Tomato,

My prayers are with you and your family and Dad! I hope his condition continues to improve!

I'm also hoping you are still planning on joining our "Men Standing" group in West Nyack for dinner tonight! You will be blessed!

I will have to take you up on that "Men Standing" gathering next month I am afraid, as I was unable to be pulled away fm the numerous commitments that I had today. Kinda sucked to because I had gotten the night/day off fm flying today in order to make it.

But like predicting hurricanes and what not, you can't predict heart attacks either. On that front though, my Dad is progressing fairly well 48 hrs post-attack. Thank you so much to everyone for all the prayers.

In unrelated news, I was sucessful in my truck shopping mission and I am now the owner of an '05 Toyota Tacoma. Eureka!!

Show your gladness to the Lord your God. He is loving, merciful & kind.

Can't sleep, so I will try typing + 3 mg melatonin to help matters lol.

I received a call fm W today as I was driving my new truck for first time and chose to keep bonding with the machine rather than taking a call which might cease my happy moment. As I have said before, my natural aloofness tends to aid my ease at detaching sometimes.

A couple hours later I checked her VM and it was along the lines of my expectation. We have been very friendly with each other for better part of this separation, and we are both experiencing some major medical family burdens right now. So her call was just to get an update on my Dad's condition and to express her concern and prayers. She also confirmed that she was on her way to her 3 day job training which just so happens to be only 15 miles aways from where I call home right now. When she first let me know about the training, she had said that she hoped I might be willing to meet her at some point as she has been really missing our pooch Rue. Of course she didn't let it be known that the peripheral chance to see me might also be desirable. I think I can read between those lines though. I can't be too sure cuz I would never place any bets on me being able to interpret any of you women's signals (eeeessh!) In furth erance of this potential fast approaching rendezvous w/ W, she also mentioned during that earlier phone call that she misses an awesome pizza parlor which I took her to when we had lived in that area a couple of years ago. She said she thought it might be nice to maybe go their for dinner while she was in town. So a chance to do some in person 1 on 1 DB'ing might be at hand in the coming days. It should be noted that these kinds of oportunities do not rear their heads very often in my sitch. So the pressure might just be stepped up a notch for me. It is a darn good thing that I don't shy away from pressure and don't wilt under it as my W does.

One other thing to mention before I hit the hay for a long overdue siesta.

I received 'an artillery shell' of sorts on Sun. night. I had left VM's on both my W's cell & DD14's cell earlier that day. I just called and left brief msgs to express that I hoped they were having a nice weekend together and to call me whenever. An "I love you" for DD14 & a "Bye" for W (so silly and it grinds me up inside).

Later that might I got a return call fm DD14 only and it sure was nice to hear her voice and I made sure to let her know. Then the 'thunder clap' struck when she said, "there's something I want to talk to you about Dad, oh wait let me see if Mom says it's alright". Then after aparaently gaining W's approval she said "I heard you and Mom are breaking up?"

Typing it now leaves me kinda paralyzed and hearing it fm my lovely D was incredibly deflating among other things. I have not had the chance to discuss w/ W what led to her informing DD14 about something which W has chosen for at least the last 2.5 months to try and conceal fm DD14 and to drag her feet on for all that time. I presume that my W didn't suddenly develope the nerve to unveil this not so secretive secret to DD14. But rather after DD14 has observed all htis nonsense for so long she fianlly had enough and asked straight out to W what was going on.

I tried to not be as floored as I felt and tried to console my DD14 by responding to her Q of "I heard you and mom are breaking up". I replied with, "that would seem to be the case". Then I shifted things to comfort her if she needed it by asking her how that made her feel. She gave her stock answer of "I don't know", then "it doesn't matter" then "I would want for you and mom to be together" but she didn't think she could do anything about it.
So I then asked her if she was feeling sad and she said "a little" and I told her that I was as well. I then gave her a pre-apology and went on to tell her that it wasn't something that she nor I could control and that we would have to leave it up to God. The pre-apology was for the mention of God which she has clearly spelled out for me that can't stand any mention of him. Teenagers have phases and I am hoping that this is just one of them for her. I love her. She is the daughter I was meant to have, to nurture and to grow with and be along side of for life.

What an exhausting bunch of days it has been physically, emotionally, spiritually and any other . .lly's you can come up with.

Thanks be to God for leading me through it all to this breath. Selah.

Oh and a short few hours after having received the dreaded newsflash above, the call came in fm my Mom informing me of Dad's heart attack.

I wonder what the fortune cookie would have said on that day? LOL

wow. sounds like the enemy is trying to bring you down as hard as he can. What a blessing it is to know that you have the Lord as your savior and will trust in Him to survive these hard times.

Very sorry to hear DD14 is hating God right now. The more you show her your joy that God gives to us, the more she will start to be curious about it, and hopefully develop a love for him as well.

Very sorry about your dad. Those things usually do come at unsuspecting times. Glad to hear he's recovering okay.

Congrats on the truck though!!! so happy for you, and that is a great accomplishment! You should be excited about it!

hey, and just because W told D14 that your "breaking up", doesn't mean that it will happen. I also think what you said was really good, there was no blaming, and you didn't say that you agreed to it either. I was shocked though that she calls you both mom and dad. how long have you guys been parents to her?

Congrats on the truck. And, I'm very happy to hear that your father is doing better.