It's been a long week. Work was not as bad as I thought it would be. I have been in training all week and took a test today and got a 97%. Not bad, but I missed 3 questions that I should have known. Grrr....
STBX called last night to talk to the girls. I had to tell him something so I talked to him too. I asked him how the job search was going. The whole time I was talking to him I could hear ow in the background, he was very short and rude. To the point that I told him that it really wasn't necessary to be mean to me. That I hadn't talked to him about his job in about 6 weeks and I was just wondering how it is going, if there are any opprotunities or not. He said "when I know something I will tell you." I said okay, bye, and hung up.
Not 5 minutes later he called again. I told D9 to answer. She did and said he wanted to talk to me. This time he was nicer. He asked if he could call me in the morning to talk. I told him I would be at work but I would call him on a break. Then I asked if he couldn't talk now. He said no, he had to go.
I called him this morning after I took my test. He was nice this time and was explaining that he thinks he might have a couple of job offers this next week (God willing) and he needed me to be patient and he will call me when he knows something for sure. He also said that he wants me to let him know how much I need each month to pay the bills, be able to buy clothes for me and the kids, food, that kind of stuff. He said he doesn't want us to lose the house, he doesn't want that to happen to us, to me or to the kids. He gave me a number that I think would be plenty, I didn't say that yet though. That is IF he gets a job that makes enough money. I told him I would go over the bills and let him know.
Why is he so rude when ow is around? Is he trying to prove his "love and loyalty" to her??
On a different note...
D9 is having a sleep over tonight. I havent seen them since I got home at 4:45 except to eat pizza with me.
D5 was supposed to go to a bday party after school. When I got home she had a fever of 102.7. So we're here hanging out in my bed watching TV. Poor thing. We have another bday party tomorrow too that I think we're going to have to skip. Oh well, a weekend at home inn our jammies isn't a bad idea. Especially since they will be in Jersey next weekend and I will miss them!!!
My H is also rude a lot to me on the phone when he is with the ow. It's like they are trying to prove to the ow that they don't care about us anymore. I am sure the ow get a thrill off of it too because they are so insecure.
I do hope your d5 is feeling better. My boys just got over being sick. Sometimes it's nice to sit home all day in your jammies and watch tv and be lazy.
I should have known that something was coming. Something always does when I start to feel good again...
Today I got a certified letter from STBX's L. They are filing in NJ for me to be served by alternate means (certified mail). He is even requesting that I PAY HIS ATTY FEES!!!! He says that I made him hire a L because I didn't just accept service from him and that I willfully avoided the process server.
I think he must be trying to find every way possible to make me dispise him. He's doing a good job.
Oh, he got the date we were married and both kids year they were born wrong. And they misspelled my name. FREAK.
I just talked to him yesterday and he seemed like a decent human. TODAY I need to be REALLY FREAKING MAD at him.
I called my L and I am forwarding the papers to her. I will probably have to hire a L in NJ now. My L said she will review the papers and let me know. She said if they are trying to push this through in Jersey that is really low since we have a jurisdictional issue in the courts already. STBX is trying to file for Default. My L said technically we could do that since STBX hasn't responded to my petition filed in AZ but that it is unethical since we have the jurisdiction issue.
W2S, Thanks for popping by! He says I made him hire a L b/c he wanted to do this D without either one of us getting a L. He wanted to do it via HotDocs on the internet. Crazy I know. I was the one that insisted I wasn't going to sign anything without a L looking at it. So in essence to him it is MY fault.
Now he is fighting me for jurisdiction. For some unknown reason he says it is easier for the D to be in NJ, even though the kids live here and all their records of any kind will be here. He won't explain to me or his L why it's easier in NJ. My guess is just b/c he wants his way.
During the MLCBS insanity, my Husband wanted to file in NH because then I wouldn't be entitled to receive alimony and the CS would be much less. I wanted him to file I CA as it would benefit me more.
Maybe it has to do with something like that?
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
I thought of that too. My L looked into it and said she could see no benefit to him for the D to be in NJ. He still (as of Friday) says he is willing to pay more than he has to. He came up with the figure that he says he is willing to pay and it is well over what legally he would have to. So I don't get it. It has to be something though.
Now D9 is saying she doesn't feel all that well. Sigh. I hate for the kids to feel bad.
I have been in training all week and took a test today and got a 97%. Not bad, but I missed 3 questions that I should have known. Grrr....
So we're here hanging out in my bed watching TV. Poor thing. We have another bday party tomorrow too that I think we're going to have to skip. Oh well, a weekend at home inn our jammies isn't a bad idea. Especially since they will be in Jersey next weekend and I will miss them!!!