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it doesn't matter how much hope there is, God moves mountains. My H was one.

S.T.

Thanks so much for the further encouragement.

I need a boost and a shove and a kick to keep me going toward the intended target.

Marriage reconciliation!

I must know that I have fully and completely exhausted every possible means of getting through to my lovely, sweet, precious, darling W. She deserves my absolute all in this and in everything I do.

Even if that perhaps wasn't always the case in the past. I am willing to let the past be in the past and to get moving fwd with a brand new M to my W. I am just going to have to for now patiently wait for her to join in on this incredibly worthwhile endeavor.

I know this in my heart. Her heart meanwhile seems to be unsettled and troubled in so many ways. I will wait. She is worth it.

We are extremely cordial, civil and cooperative at this time and I know these are the right building blocks towards many more positives.

The Lord will instruct me on what to do and I will obey.

Hi friends

One last post before I adjourn for the night.

This has beena topsy turvy kind os a day. The important thing is that I am bringing it to a close feeling pretty good.

My Co. safety meeting was the same old snorefest that it always is save for a few moments. Once I returned fm that outing, I managed to find a ride to pick up car after hours fm garage where it had been inspected. That almost became a big headache but didn't.

Then once I started heading for home (AKA - whoever will take me in, like a stray cat)I was overcome by the intense urge to call W. So I allowed my mind to tinker with idea of making something of a shift in tactics in regards to contacting W.

I am feeling like I am entering new territory. I really just wanted to call her to see how both she and my sponsor/foster D are doing and basically just make it a touching base friendly zero pressure call. I then crosschecked myself against a close friends opinion on this matter. He green-lighted the idea. So I called W a few hrs ago and had to leave VM. In the msg I just said "I just wanted to call you to let you know I was thinking about the two of you and was wondering what sort of fun things you might be doing tonight. Also if D was free, I just wanted to say a quick hello. I will talk to you at some point . Have a good night."

This marked the first time that I was calling her without it being in response to a call she made to me. I am just beginning to feel that maybe "going so dark" with W may or may not have reached its point of diminishing returns. On the other hand, the type of phone call that I made was rather benign, as it should be.

So maybe it is a matter of moving from darkness to dimness.

Oh and since my D14 is with W right now, I did receive some pretty bad news about D14. Not that it is too terribly surprising, given her life history (and the times we live in), but my W found condoms in her pocket book and then of course confronted her with them. So we now presumably have a D14 who is sexually active. As I said, not a shocker but it hurts pretty bad to know that she is sucumbing to the pressures of this harsh and nasty world. I really need to hug her if possible before this weekend is over. That means I will need to give W a ring again tomorrow to arrange to meet up with them.

I miss them both and it is hard to feel so very alone like this. I really miss them. They are very, very special people to me. I need them to continue to be my family.

'See you in church' . . .LOL

Hello

Do I seem like someone who is relly cuttingback on the amount of time spent on here?

Oh well, I am up early so that I can head out to worship with my buddy, who is also (not that I have such a massive stable of friends)the one who was instrumental in my W & I meeting for first time.

It is always good to get out especially to church, for me anyway.

Gotta go get showered and shaved and all that good stuff as where I will be churching is not far off fm Wifeville

I will do as has been my custom and prepare for the off chance encounter with her by wearing all of the clothes which she either bought me and/or that I know cause her to "salivate" over me.

The way I look at it, between my 180's and all my carefully planned DB tactics and a little Armani Aqua Digio I am going to make what may be the last ninety days of my M something that she will be wrestling over in her mind something terrible.

Carpe Diem.

Ask him to make you Holy Spirit driven today.

Hi Tomato,
I can't say I am fully caught up on your sitch...but I know from a lot of your posts that you're having a tough week. I believe you were served if I gather correctly?
Anyway, I just wanted to let you know that my thoughts and prayers are with you. It is encouraging to read some of those posts where others were served and are now reconciled.

And hey.. a little Armani Aqua Digio never hurt anyone. And you should be getting all dolled up for yourself anyway! When you feel good about yourself, it shows.
Hope your day today is going well.
J~

Uggh...I feel for you having to deal with teenager issues on top of all of this other stuff. I have 3 teens from my first marriage and thankfully their dad and I coparent pretty well. Although when something happens (which seems to be alot lately) with the kids it makes me realize that is where my focus needs to be..on my kids not my H.

Hope your W caught a glimpse of you in your spiffy duds!! If not, hope they made you feel special today.

Goodmorning Tomato,
It's nice to see you feeling better about yourself and your sitch. I hope that things start moving in a more favorable direction for you. Sounds like you may have been the hot ticket at church this morning. Keep up the confidence and PMA you sound great. I hope this week is wonderful for you. And, as always, thank you for checking in on me often.

Hey Tomato,

I bet you looked great and smelled awesome!!! It does help to personify that you're at the top of your game when you're looking the part.

I hope this week is a better week for you.

Hugs,
W2G

very sorry to hear about D14. Obviously, either she doesn't have a strong conviction of sex being a sin, or else she doesn't have a good selfesteem and strong sense of selfworth. She's looking for her selfworth from the guy she might be sleeping with. I think focusing on her confidence and self-image would be good.



for some reason I just feel that you have been trying too hard to do the right things. but I can't say that this is a true assumption because I haven't read your whole sitch yet.

I wish I was a speedreader like my s9 and could read your whole sitch in 10 min. I will try to read thru it this week though.

Jenny, Starting, Blindsided1, Where2

Thank you all for checking up on me and giving me the lift of your kindness and just being there when I check the posts.

I'd have more to say to you all but I need to make this a short board visit.

probably be back to post in a couple hrs

might even head to a movie in the mean time. sounds kind of appealing if I can find a worthwhile movie which is usually the hard part.

Serenity comes from God & only God.