Ah, the anger. I have let it sink it's teeth into me. H hasn't done anything in particular, I'm just angry at this whole mess. That he doesn't look at me and can barely talk to me. Compared to many here I've got it good and I'm grateful. I'm still PO'd though. I think I need to go and work out.
Hope everybody has a good weekend.
((((Lissie))))
Thanks for stopping by. I love your take on things.
Drew,
I have to stand or I'd fall over. Thank you sweetie.
Grace- it is so easy to get angry at this mess. The key is to get angry and then move past it. Just don't dwell on it or it will become bitterness.
This is a great thread. I give you credit with your H being home. I know, for me, it is easier since he has left. No more walking on eggshells. But to be able to just "be" with him around must be stressful.
Take care of yourself. Work out, stress the anger away. I have been thinking about taking up boxing....
Hey Grace- I am sorry that you are angry right now but I am glad to see that you are human. You have amazed me with you strength, compassion, understand, patience, etc. You are entitled to have moments of frustration and anger. Go work out and hopefully that will get you back to a good place. I am going to go work out myself. I will check back in later to see how you are.
Hope you're feeling better by now, Grace. Maybe you can use the anger to point you towards action? Is there a 180 you could throw out to see what kind of reaction it gets?
Oh my goodness, Grace...the anger. Looks like you are human.
My weekend - buying socks, then hanging with my sons.
Do you know Grace, what caused me to marry my ex...buying socks. I had met her a couple times before. But this one day, I went to the mall to buy socks, saw her, and took her out for a beer. Had I showered that morning, I may have never been here!
Fortunately or sadly depending on when you catch me, I am all to human. The works out almost always help. Today though, I'm sore and still on the angry side. Perhaps I should take up kickboxing, I understand that's a really great (and tiring) work out.
Ingrid, The 180's are tough. I have changed some of my behaviors since all of this began and never heard a peep. I have kept the changes b/c I see them as necessary for my own life. I don't think my H would say "sh!t" if he had a mouthful right now.
IMP, the sock story is great. Clearly you should be careful at the mall....
Thanks for checking on me everybody. I have one friend outside this board that really gets it (her 1st H went through something similar). Most don't understand and I'm not one for putting it all out for general consumption.
Today will be busy so that should keep me out of trouble. I work and then I have a test to study for. Perhaps another workout.
I think we can all waste too much time trying to second guess what "they" will like. I don't have the time or the inclination to waste the time I have. Like most I imagine, I do too much second guessing as it is. I have found in the last year I do much less of it though.
