I was just looking at Yoyo’s thread.... I'm going through a "controlled" MLC. That is what my Vegas trip is all about... I am asking myself all the same questions. It's just that I am going to think about my life and where I want to go and then tell my Wife... MLC is not necessarily a bad thing... just like PMS as long as you recognize what is happening you do have some control of your actions.....H
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
A controlled MLC can be a good thing. You can change yourself if needed, but not affect those you love... in fact...a controlled MLC could make everyone's life better...
H - sounding good! Hope you're having a good Sunday.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
Today was ok. I went to work this morning when I got home family still asleep. I lit the fireplace to warm up the house... fiddled around my shop a little. When son finely got up and got ready we went to my MIL house to prune her roses... (Kept thinking who would be doing it next year). But before we went there we HAD do go look for puddles to jump with the jeep. (This hurts getting my nice black jeep all muddy but son loves it). Then I went and pruned the roses while son went in and visited Grammy... Then we went and played three games of pool.... I called home to see if W wanted me to pick up take out and she said yes do we stopped and picked up some Mexican. (Food). Then we saw another mud puddle that we HAD to jump and came home... W was not in a good mood today. She is working on the computer to try to get one of son's games to work..... Youngest D called and said she was having problems with her roommates..... She was thinking of moving back home or to her Grandmother house (my Mom's). W said that her room was turned into an office and it would be difficult...I was thinking we may not even be here.... It is so hard for me to plan anything beyond tomorrow. I hate living like this. It’s like Russian roulette.... you just don't know how long you have before that loaded chamber is going to come around. Son want me to start building his tree house, I have cement work that needs to be done.......The talk will come soon, from the books I have read it should be centered around me wanting to move on in life and I would like wife to be by my side. But she is free to go. Free to call the OM but we must then end our relationship. I am good either way.... I will be hard at first... Giving up so many of my material things but..... I have tasted freedom...Next time some good looking woman asked me to go hot tubbing I will have an answer for her. 1. I am very flattered but I am married. Or 2. Let's go.....
W just cam in and said she is setting up the slide show of her trip to one of the ghost towns I am going to see. Sooo I will catch up with ya all later
Bye Dr Love husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Hey what towns are you going to? I have no idea if this is on your route but Bodie is a VERY cool place to visit if you're into that kinda thing. Might be snowed in this time of year, though.
Enjoy the slide show!
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
the "slide show" had nothing to do with ghost towns... it was death valley... they were nice though. But.... Mixed up in the sildes were ones of the FIRST camping trip W and I took before we were maried....I totaly forgot how skinny she was... and she was smiling alot... Oh well time for bed. Back in the morning.. Bye
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
In your journaling post it seems like you are in a good place with yourself. Great gal mud puddles, shop, mils... And great pma "I am good either way". It sure seems like you're doing things the right way or the best you can. Keep up the great work!
Comparing this to my sitch i feel like i havnt detached like you and mark were able to. Now its like she resents me for it.
I really look up to you and many many others on this board.
Light Switch
Me 37 W 37 D21 D17 D12 S8 grandparents 7/07 boy Married 16 yrs last June 07 Bomb dropped 4/07
"Do what you feel in your heart to be right-for you'll be criticized anyway. You'll be damned if you do, and damned if you don't", Eleanor Roosevelt
I do not feel that I have fully detached. I am more doing things on my own and supressing my true feelings. It talkes alot of will power. Last night After seeing the slides of our first camping trip. ( at the sand dumes son and I now go to every summer). I so much wanted to give her a great big squeeze of a hug. But I settled for a little thank you kiss on the lips. It's not a big kiss by any means but it is a kiss no less. and she does turn her head to meet mine. I am in a good place that as much as I do not want to I can go on with out her..but time is running out....I need to exspress my true feeling to someone...Hopefullly it will be her but if not......... I need to take a look at you sitch. it's been awhile.......12 more days till Vegas... starting to get buterflies in my stomach. I am not totaly sure what I am going to acomplish with this trip except to kind of stop the world for a week. get off and catch my breath. Nothig will really change. when I jump back on everything will still be there. Hopefully I will be able to look at it though with a fresh mind. Ya know I have never been single since highschool for more that a year... and even then I was a single PARENT.......Back MLC back...I am in control
Later Dr L husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Just a popping in to say hi to Dr. Love the poster formerly known as 'husband' 