I did ask for what she was looking for. I said you need to tell me what it is you want and need and give it some opportunity to see if I can fulfill that. she agreed that she may never know, but doesn't think I can.
she still hasn't told me what it is....I think the LL book would be important, but she doesn't want to read it because that would be "working on it" and doesn't want to potentially change her mind and lose face with everyone shes told. I still think shes out to proove something...that she can do it.
You cant convince her to do anything. WAW's are a stubborn bunch. The only way is to focus on yourself and kid. Give up on your W for now - her rationale thinking is out the window and may not return for a while.
Well, W has been nice to me this evening. We havent had much interaction, but she did make dinner...and called for me to come downstairs to eat several times. That sounds pretty weird, but, as bad as it is right now, I guess thats a positive. She seems so 'done' that she has no emotion to me, wont really listen or look me in the eye if I talk to her. She's putting out a big effort to treat me like one of the chairs in the family room.
Other than that, no conversation really.
I'm working on the dictionary. But, I'm so put off by her interest in partying and seeking out guys right now that I dont want to deal with her.
She has totally rewritten our history. I'm not sure how she is going to fall in love with me again if were living in different houses and she's saying right now that I'm not the right person for her, never was. I just dont see it right now. She's going to find someone else and proove to everyone she can do it and that she made the right choice. Thats what I'm afraid of.
