GOOD FOR YOU! You did the right thing, absolutely.
btw, I LOOOVE Winnie-the-Pooh! In fact, I've got a little ceramic one, sittin' here on my desk, in the "Think, think, think" position. And a Tigger, too!
I did my D6's nursery in Pooh when she was little and she still loves him to this day! Of course she is into all the new "big girl" stuff too but you are never too old for Pooh.
I told H that I spilled the beans and he was glad because he was tired of all the blame being put on him. He calls her all kinds of bad names now (when she is brought up). Does he do that to make me feel better or to convince himself that she is no good?
We are starting to not talk about it as much. I actually feel better now that it is out to her H. She is not talking to me and according to her H, she never will again. But that is cool.
My sister works with her and she is afraid my sister will start telling people at work about what she did. She thinks my sister JUST found out but she has actually known all along. I think it will do her some good to sweat it out a bit!
I actually feel better now that it is out to her H. She is not talking to me and according to her H, she never will again. But that is cool.
Oh Boo Hoo....Poor Her. This makes me ill to hear that SHE'S the one that's so upset and now will never talk to you again. Wasn't she the one that didn't want to lose your friendship? I have no sympathy for her at all!! She caused her best friend to go through pain that no one should have to go through and her H is willing to work on their M. She got a good outcome with this deal. No need to shed any tears for her!
I'm glad that things are working out for you.
SueS
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
I absolutely agree!! Yes she was the one that wanted to keep the friendship. She has tried to play the victim in all this and still does where her H is concerned.
But he is wise to her ways now. She is the type of person that eats up attention from other men and I guarantee she will do this again to someone else. It is just a matter of time.
She has a great H who adores her and would do anything for her and yet it is never enough for her. This is not her first A and her H knows that but thought she would stop after the last one.
He swears he will NOT go through this again and I guess that only time will tell. It is a shame that someone that close to you could hurt you so badly. It makes you leary of having best friends.
But he is wise to her ways now. She is the type of person that eats up attention from other men and I guarantee she will do this again to someone else. It is just a matter of time.
She has a great H who adores her and would do anything for her and yet it is never enough for her. This is not her first A and her H knows that but thought she would stop after the last one.
My H works around the corner from where she lives but they are moving to the other side of town next week. Well her H called me this morning to tell me that she did not go to work today because she is just sooooooo stressed out about all of this and needed the time off to pack and didn't want to have to deal with working today.
Give me a break!
Her H ended up taking the day off too to help with the packing so if she was planning on being up to no good it backfired.
I don't think I have to worry about my H anymore where she is concerned but I bet she has found her next victim.
Wow.....I did not know it had been so long since I last posted.
Well I am still in a mess. H did stop the A with my ex best friend. We were trying to work on things (at least I thought). About 3 months later I notice H's cell minutes had gone up a lot again. Well I checked and found a # constantly calling him.
I called the # and found out it was a female but did not know who it was at that time. Confronted H and he told me it was a high school fling he had way back and ran into her and they were just friends, etc. etc. She is married also, with a teenage son.
I asked him to cut the calls down a bit and they did. For a short time. Then in May he had to go out of town for school with his job and I started noticing text messaging was beginning. My H has NEVER text messaged before so I knew something was going on. I called our cell phone provider and had the text messages log.
I spent an entire week watching these 2 text back and forth about how in love with each other they are till it made me sick! I did some detective work and found out where she lives. Went there several times trying to catch her H alone so I could let him know but she was always there too or no one was there.
H came back into town and I confronted him to which he tried to tell me he set me up. WTF???? I don't think so. Anyway I filed for D on May 12.
It was rough at first. A lot of fighting between H and myself. Then it started to ease off. I started seeing someone and it was good but I was not ready for that. Could not shake the feelings I still had for my H. Not sure why those feelings are still there but they are.
So anyway, about a month ago the skank that my H was talking to pretty much cut it off. I did a little snooping lately and found that they have not been talking on the phone. There have been a couple text messages but nothing really. H swears up and down that it did not lead to sex. I really do NOT believe that.
We are now waiting on mediation which we just got the appt. yesterday and it will be in 3 weeks. We are getting along better now than we ever have. I did move out when I started seeing OP and am now living with my mom. H comes by there EVERY night to hang out. He calls me several times a day. Every day.
We do not talk about getting back together. It never gets discussed. H does take D7 every other weekend but here lately he has been wanting me to stay the weekends too. Even the ones where I have D7.
ANy ideas on what he is thinking? Another question I have is can you stop a D if mediation date is already set? Not that that will happen but I would like to know how far you can go and still stop a D. So sorry this post is so long. Trying to fit everything in here that is important.
