Yes, we try to keep the mood light in the playhouse. there's enough depressing stuff elsewhere. i've been drinking some Tosti asti spumante. Found it at New Years' and I'm still drinking it.
I was reading your sitch tonight. Looks like your wife is too comfortable with married life to really go it alone. there is a really good retrouvaille group in New Jersey, I'm not sure where, but Hopeforfuture went a couple of weeks ago and had a great outcome. He posted on LWB's last thread about it. You should look into it, http://www.helpourmarriage.org. It saved my marriage too.
