They are people who have no moral compass, no integrity, no ethics.
It is all about them and their happiness.
They do not care about "the" wife or the kids.
They care about themselves and want someone to take care of them.
Yes. Just for the record, OW knows me. I went to her baby shower (gave some nice gifts too), gave her my son's kid stuff for the twins she has, she was in my home many times, cried in my arms when her ex cheated on and left her and then she hops into bed (our bed) with my H. WOW, now she emails me how the pain made her do it. Excuse me? I have not noticed any one on this site deciding to use their pain to become an OW. How could anyone living through this do this to someone else?
Meanwhile, my H is trying to convince me he just had such sympathy for her as a single Mom? Hello? What about your wife now being a single Mom? MLCBS is truly insane.
Shades, I have been reading your comments about your STBX OW and if they are happy and what not. Well, remember this, there is a 97% chance that this relationship will fail.
Shades, hope things are going as well for you and the girls as can be.
Your pancakes sounded yummy!
AND DO NOT SAY YOU ARE PLAIN!!!!!!!
YOU ARE GORGEOUS!!!!!
Your D9 may have said the OW looks like a "movie star" but at heart she is a pathetic individual who is with a MARRIED MAN. WHat kind of person is that? and she exposes her kids to that? What kind of mother is she? Honey, you are NONE of the things she is and be glad for it.
Vanilla Ice is gonna wake up and realize the grass is NOT greener...in the meanwhile, you do your thing...
You are a beautiful woman inside and out and very few people can compare to you and certainly NOT the cow he is with now.
Smooches, Vali
Aug '06: H moved out July '08: H had a kid with the OW May 12 '09: emancipation day
"Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it." -Ferris Bueller
STBX and ow might be happy in their little world. They might think they are IT!! But I would much rather be me, knowing I am an honest, moral person makes me very happy and comfortable with myself.
I cannot fathom exposing my kids to the things that they have. I would never move a married man into my house with my kids. Nope.
She might be "all that" but I am more in the ways that matter most.
W2S, you crack me up!!! I do wonder what they think a movie star looks like. I know D5 could see a blinged out streetwalker and think she is gorgeous b/c she has lots of makeup and glittery clothes.
Come to think of it, D9 said ow wore a sparkly fancy shirt and heels to get pizza...
Well I have to go get the little ones from school. I do have a question to ask advise on later this evening though. But first have to go to RE and a makeup party. Wahoo.....
D9 finally talked to STBX tonight. She hasn't wanted to talk to him lately. I have encouraged her to talk with her dad about how she doesn't want to go to NJ to visit him and ow. I have been trying to reassure her that it will be okay and that I understand she misses her dad and she needs to go with an open mind, she might actually have fun.
Anyway, she sobbed most of the conversation. He said he would listen to her, from where I stood, it didn't sound like it. He has always had a tendency to get frustrated if you didn't agree with him. During MLC he just gets nasty. D9 was scared to talk to him because of this.
It went on for about 10 minutes. She sobbing and trying to explain to him that she just wants to see him by himself, without ow. He told her she needs to get used to ow, that she (D9) had a great time while she was with him and ow last week. D9 said that she had "sucked it up and pretended" while she was with them. She told him she was scared of making him mad at her, that she doesn't want to see where ow lives or meet her family. And that she is scared to go because she has never been that far away from home before. Oh, yeah and that she considers ow a stranger and she doesn't like strangers.
I asked D9 how it went. She said he used his mad voice. She said I told her to talk to her dad about how she feels and she tried but he still got mad at her.
Then he talked to D5. D5 came to me and said "dad told me to work on D9. That she doesn't want to go visit and I need to help him."
I swear I wish he would step up and be a DAD to our kids and stop with shoving ow down their throats.
He has always had a tendency to get frustrated if you didn't agree with him
Oh my - you are married to my H!!!!! Is your H always right, too?
Couldn't you just spit nails when they do this to the kids? Your D is CLEARLY telling him that she is not ready for OW to be in her life. This is not about you, this is not about your marriage...it is about a little girl who is trying to process everything that is going on in her life as quickly as SHE can. But she is NINE!!! She is a child, not an adult.
This stuff really p*sses me off. Self centered, selfish idiots.
Sorry, Shades. I hate when the kids are affected like this. Really, really gets to me.
Yup, that's him, ALWAYS right!!! Isn't it scary how similar they all are????
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Your D is CLEARLY telling him that she is not ready for OW to be in her life. This is not about you, this is not about your marriage...it is about a little girl who is trying to process everything that is going on in her life as quickly as SHE can. But she is NINE!!! She is a child
You are soooo right. She told him "it's too much dad, there is just too much that's happened, I can't do it" I really could just about spit nails. Honestly, she is NINE!!! She doesn't know how to process all that has happened to her life this last 18 months and is desparately trying to and at the same time trying to keep it all the way it was. It breaks my heart.
Why he refuses to come and visit them ALONE is beyond me. He has seen them 3 times since last June. Once in July, for an hour that he came by on a layover. While he was here he set up the Tivo's in the house. The second time he was with them for 16 hours and brought ow with him. The third time he had them for 22 hours and had ow with him. This whole time D9 has been begging him to come ALONE. He said that's not going to happen. Sigh.
