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welp. H was in a poopy mood yesterday. I still let that get to me too easily. It started when I txt to find out what he'd like to eat when I was leaving church. well, I guess it really started with him txting me 3 times trying to reach me when I was still at church. So anyways, it ended up him halfway yelling at me about how he hates wendys fries and why would he want arbys fries when they'll be cold too. That rampage started the day before when we got Wendys and he complained about the whole meal and I was trying to be positive about it and he got mad at me instead. well, I said " okay lets just pretend we're poor and.." nevermind, I can't remember what I said. but whatever it was he got offended.

It really opened my eyes. I don't want to be like that, or my kids, and I know I was like that before.

Well, then I wanted to go to the store by myself and he was cool with it. But when I got home 2 or 21/2 hrs later he was soooooooo pissed. I text inbetween saying sorry it's taking so long, ran into a friend etc. he said ok. granted, I should have gotten back home sooner since I was cooking supper and kids ended up eating around 7.30-7.45. which I didn't think was aweful (we usually eat anywhere from 6-8), but boy, was he throwing a little fit. slamming doors, griping. saying things like he didn't believe me that I was only at the store. I didn't really want to talk because I had just been thinking in the car(after hearing a really good song-- you know the kind of song that really puts you in THE mood) and was gonna forget the groceries and take him to the bedroom... but boy did that feeling go away fast.

We ended up appologizing that night in bed... so glad.. he would never apologize before, it was always me, and then I told him about the song and what I was gonna do and he thought that was cool. well, so we made up.


I found a pastor who wrote "Complaint Free World". he challenges people to wear these bracelets and if they complain they have to switch the bracelet to another wrist, and do so everytime. The goal is to try to keep the bracelet on the same wrist for 21 days. Which is said to be the magic number of making something a habit. Doing something every single day for 21 days straight. So I think I'd like to try it. It was ironic that I had ripped the article out just the day before yesterday. Almost made me wanna say, here, read this!

I'm gonna get two bracelets, one for me and my s9, I think it would be good for both of us.

Hi ST,
I like the bracelet idea! I may have to try it.

Hi NA!

it's at this website if you wanna check it out.

http://www.complaintfreeworld.biz/index.html

I actually got the book on ebay (it shipped faster) and got 5 bracelets from their site.

I've also decided that I'm going to do my thing about fasting during the day and praying for my husband. I made a plan to do that a year ago every month and I did it once. I am really pathetic sometimes!!

Called one of my bfriends and we're going to both start tomorrow.

I went to the bodyforlife site too, I'm planning to do that as well. not too excited about taking a pic of myself for it though, but it would be cool to see the before and after pics.

Nikki, when are you going to do that?? hav you taken your pic?

Hi there ST!

Mentioned it on my thread but thought I'd post it here too - glad to see you checking in on Blindsided! I think you can really help her. I try but having not been through the whole pregnancy thing, I think it probably adds a whole other layer of emotional turmoil that I don't really understand. I am SO sad and sick about how many pregnant women are posting in Newcomers right now!!

Sounds like you handled the "poopy mood" stuff very well, overall. Everyone's gonna get grumpy or have arguments at times - it's the apologies and making up for it that counts, and sounds like THAT went great!!

I'm excited you're thinking of trying Body For Life!! I actually backed off my plan a bit - I think jumping straight into that is too much for me right now (even modified). So I'm commiting instead to exercising in some form at least 30 min. a day. But if you can do BFL it is SO incredible and motivating and just WOW. I picked out some of my favorite before/afters from the site and based them to my exercise journal.

I did the pics.. definitely, I know you're not excited, but do them!! Front, back, and side.. and wear tight workout type clothes. When I started my first challenge I was probably around 175 lbs??? (at 5'4" - definitely heavy!). It was HARD to put on spandex pants and top and take those pics, lemme tell ya. But I took pics every 4 weeks. You could see a difference in 4 weeks - and then when you compared week 1 with 12, WOW!! Looking in the mirror at week 12 I felt stronger but still heavy - looking at the pics made me see just how far I'd come.

I DO need to do a BFL challenge again, just need to get a little more confident strength wise first, I think.

thanks Nikki. I really hope blindsided1 can get her confidence and strength back. I know being pregnant can really get your emotions going. I bawled when my H and I watched that funny pregnant show with Hugh Grant in it. It was WAY too personal for me and my H couldn't understand why.

you know what. I think we should challenge her. She is CONSTANTLY saying how sad she is, so maybe we should challenge her to think only positive thoughts for a day or something, or have her write one post that is only positive. I think I'm gonna write that on her thread.

yes, I'm VERY glad our making up went well. It never used to before actually, and I would always be pouty wishing H would appologize and he never would, so then I'd be upset for however long and just let it go. Except I realize now that I never really TRULY let it go, because I was allowing all those things to make me bitter.

I wonder if I have the strength to do the BFL. or the will power. I feel like there is SO much to do in the house. I haven't hardly done anything on my MonaVie.

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H and I got to go GLO bowling the other night. we almost couldn't go because of a sitter, but I was able to have a new friend have them over there, so YEA! It wasn't too exciting at first, all his friends were kinda in blah moods, but the other 2 girls there kept getting beer and shots and ended up a little silly, so that made things interesting, and then I challenged everyone to bowl with their left hands on our last game, so that was really funny. I even had everyone beat (12 people and 10 of them guys!) up until the 6 frame and then it was down- hill for me after. but I did end up very consistant. 106 for Both games.

Hey ST,

I think that challenge is a great idea for blindsided1! I've suggested it in the past but never as a direct challenge, good idea.

Yeah.. some stuff just TOTALLY changes meaning once you've been through this. I remember not long after the "bomb" for me, we were in this "walking on eggshells" phase and H was trying to cheer me up - so he rented a comedy. Guess which one? Oh yeah.. "The Breakup". After I bawled through the first 10 minutes he turned it off, but sheesh.. was it that hard to understand WHY that might not go over well??? (like your H with the Hugh Grant one).

I'm SO happy for you, you sound great!! Between the making up, and the GLO bowling - that is so cool. I know you and H don't get out on "dates" too much and I'm just thrilled to hear you went out together!! haha that's funny with the left handed bowling. Consistency is good..

BFL - yeah, you have to be WAY dedicated to stick with it. The 12 week time frame helps a lot, but it's still a major commitment. I thought I was in the right frame of mind but I'm really not right now.. so, going for 30 min. of some form of exercise a day, but not as intense as BFL right now. Physically wise I can guarantee you're strong enough because you adjust it for YOU... but mentally and emotionally wise it can be tough.

Hope your week goes well!!

Thanks Nik!

I remember THAT about the breakup! I know, how retarded can they be????

I just posted the challenge to BS1. oops, that abreviation isn't good!

I am going to try the BFL anyways. I don't really want to buy one of their products, I don't ever do that kind of stuff, but oh well. I can just do this for me anyways. don't have to try to win anything. I took my pics. can't believe how 5 lbs has really added mass onto me compared to just 6 months ago. I can tell by my clothes too. And really it's only been like 2 or 3 months that I've gained some weight back.

ok my 3 yr old won't let me etype

haha no that abbreviation does not work so well!! Good challenge though, I like it.

I'm so excited you're going to do BFL!! Truly, you don't need to buy any of their stuff. All the workout details and tracking sheets are on their website, and it's easy to find detailed descriptions and videos of all the different weight moves. You just have to pick stuff you can do at home without fancy equipment, but it's not hard. I did my first 12 weeks with all floor exercises and dumbbells - not even a weight bench or anything. Here's a great site for details on how to do the exercises (I'd choose from the BFL list, then look them up on this site for detailed "how to" info).
http://www.exrx.net/Lists/Directory.html

If you click on whatever part you want to work, it gives you a list of exercises based on equipment required. For example here's the shoulder page:
http://www.exrx.net/Lists/ExList/ShouldWt.html

Gotta get some chores done, but I'll reply to your email soon - thanks!!

thanks Nik,

I can tell I'm not too motivated about it... I'm not even wanting to look up those pages! I did run partway around the block with s3 and pup. so at least I've done something. I have a feeling the BFL IS going to be too much, but hopefully I can do half of it, I know that's better than nothing for sure.

thanks for all the help on it. I will make myself look at the sites this week.

oh, and on the stuff your suppose to buy, your suppose to choose one EAS or whatever brand of some supplement or whatever to enter the contest. my H actually already has something here that looks like it would be okay to drink (not a bunch of weird ingredients) .

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Got my purple complain-free bracelets. gave one to s9 and he complained about 5 times after that when I told him to brush his teeth! this is gonna be hard! for me too. I'm hoping to read the book with him together. He got in trouble on the bus for the 5 time this school year so now he is suspended for 3 days. not a good thing at all. I hope I can change it all around.

just have to mention H and I had a major discussion the other night.

the quick vs. He found txts from a guy on my old cell that seemed way too suggestive and it was on new years and he knew I was going somewhere else first.

whole things long story, but really just a misunderstanding. the guy is really cool, just a bit flirty since he's an old college friend and he thinks I'm the most wonderful girl, but a really nice guy though and I would NEVER ever make the same mistake twice.

So, H was SO livid. he said he had been shaking for 2 hrs, and when I got home from church practice he txt me saying he was gonna call the guy. boy was I shocked. so, anyways, we got things resolved luckily, but it just shows me that he's still not fully trusting me. he may never either. I don't know what I would have done myself now. I told him I would tell the guy not to flirt around anymore, and I would stop talking to him if he wanted to. He said I could do what I wanted. I said I didn't want to do anything that he would feel bad about or be upset for.

anyways, it was kinda nice to see him so upset.. only for the fact that it makes me see that he really does love me.

he also did apologize for not telling me compliments later that night. was glad to hear that. not sure if I'll ever hear any, but oh well. I have to get my recognition from God not men.

oh, and we DID make up. that didn't always happen in the past either.

peaceful night everyone.