Guys, Thanks for the pick me up. I left shortly after my last post. Spent the day with my single buddy watching sports all day and.......talking about my sitch a little. His take as expected get the hell out of there. Anyhow, i was getting ready to pickup D7 earlier today and called the MIL to tell her I would bring her over. MIL said she would pick her up at my mom's. Well something told me she is trying to hide something so I decided to drop by her apartment building. Well low and behold my wife's truck was parked there. Now if i combine this with all the other circumstatial evidence (passport, her phone rings funny etc.) well....I know you are not supposed to spy but I could not help it. It will be interesting to see if MIL again sets up a meeting for a pickup of D7 away from her house. More interesting will be the conversation when my wife returns. I know i am supposed to love unconditionally but if she says she drove herself to her destination it will be OVER, no questions asked. Someone else said this but you do not leave a relationship or a job with nothing else to fall back on. I will keep you posted....On the positive side, you have to be prtty warped to be cheating on your husband and send him a text message that you miss him. If that is the case, she has bigger problems than an MLC. Hopefully I'll get some sleep tonight and be rested tommorow.
MIL just called...I offered to pickup D7 at the apt.....she said she would not be home this aft. and to meet her at a McDonald's closer to my house. The plot thickens....I know that I should not chase this but to me if my wife is not honest, it is over. I will forgive her no doubt but will not be able to continue an R with a dishonest person. Now my only question is I know W is scheduled to come back on Wednesday...do I stake out the MIL's apt. parking?
You guys are going to think I am going nuts but I think my wife is in Europe (my guess is Paris) with a male coleaugue. Why did she say to everyone that she was going to be 3hrs. drive away? Why did she send me a text message saying she misses me? I could be imagining all this. I spent my weekend wondering where my wife is just because I saw her truck parked at my MIL's.
how do you come up with Paris? maybe you could meet her at the airport if you could figure that out...that would be interesting.
maybe she does miss you. I don't think she would spend the time to send it if she wasn't missing you.
a real sneaky effort would be to have one of your buddies drop you off and you drive the car home....leave it at your buddies house and see if mil calls you. if shes in paris, she will have to. then you could swap the info on the truck for info on her flight. I know I have a devious mind. probably why I'm one of the worst db'ers ever.
Hey Tostada, I thought about similar "efforts".....I guess that also puts me in the worst category. I need to gather more information before I turn all the circumstantial evidence into a case. Have not decided what to do yet but airport or MIL parking lot is indeed a possibility. Hopefully, I'll get some suggestions here today or tommorow to put me on the right track or maybe this is not the rigth place for this kind of effort.
I'm like you, sometimes when something gets into my head it nags away and nags away until I do something. So if it's really bugging you don't beat about the bush, bust the case wide open and sufferer the repercussions or close your mind and leave it alone to sort itself out. This in between position you're in is gonna drive you nuts. Not the best advise given but I feel like you're a man on a mission.
If I put a little bit of my sitch to you, I snooped and had a pretty good handle on when W was with OM but I didn't confront her. But you know, the time when I thought "Oh to hell with it, I'm done with her" and just wished W to have a good time when she left with her overnight bag, this was the night when W said her encounter with OM was a disaster, and their R seemingly imploded. She actually said she was in hotel room with OM thinking what the hell am I doing here, I should be home with my family.
So if your W is in Europe or just down the road whats the difference she's with OM and you're done with her. Paris maybe a great time or disaster for her. You just don't know, you just have to wait and see. What I'm saying is you can't control her just take control of yourself.
Take care
Me:50 W: 49 T:20yrs M: 14 yrs D:11 2005 PA 2006: EA (2003 : 2007) 2007: April ILYBNILWY Aug PA, Sept Separate 2008: Feb Piecing 2009 Limbo 2011: Separated (same house) 2013: Divorcing
Lanzo, You are 100% correct on the take control of myself issue as this issue has taken over my thoughts. Problem is she is supposed to be down the road...if she lied and is indeed in Paris....wait and see i guess..
Exactly, you don't know...it will drive you crazy if you let it. Try to do something for yourself and don't let your spouses action bring you down and basically effect your life. Control yourself, do not let her control you because of her behavior.
I received an e-mail from W around 16:00 saying: hope things are going well at home , I will call before D7'S bedtime. Have a nice afternoon XX So the call did come in at 19:45 and I decided to answer (long distance ring but no # on the call display). She was not her usual self. We exchanged how are things going etc. She said she was pretty much finished doing what she needed to do. I should have asked if she would be back tommorow but I did not. Anyway I put D7 on the phone and they speak about 20 seconds. D7 then asks if she would like to speak to dad..no, that's fine. I am not imagining things but i sense that W knows I know something is not right.. I still can't figure out why she would have to lie about her whereabouts and send me an i miss you text message. Unless she is in a resort town somewhere in which case the tan should give it away. This is all too weird...i have decided to stalk out the MIL parking lot from 11:00 - 14:30 on Wednesday. i probably have as much a chance of winning the lotery as I do of spotting something. Even if I do not see anything the conversation should be interesting on Wednesday evening. I am shaking my head as I am reading his and I am pretty calm. I am not sure I will be calm on Wednesday. At this point I just need to know and I am prepared for the worst.
Something just hit me hard this morning as I am bracing myself for the worse. I will really miss bringing my D7 to the bus stop every morning and wishing her a nice day. My eyes are swelling up just thinking about it.
