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Have you ever laid yourself, nekkid... along side of Cac... and... not caring one wit for what he thought... allowed yourself to feel safe, sexually secure and daring, very cat-like relaxed.... and just concentrated your thoughts upon... his... oh, I don't know... arm? His jaw line? The hair above his navel?

No. What I mean is, I have felt safe and sexually secure with him. Daring maybe not so much. I'm not a particularly daring person in general. But if I felt that way I wouldn't be thinking about his arm. Well maybe the hand at the end of his arm touching me. Or some other body part that would make me feel good.

Have YOU ever taken the time, to explore, at your leisure... what YOU like to do, or not... with him... or not with him? Maybe yourself...???? Because you were feeling erotic and he was laying there, maybe watching?

I think I have a good understanding of what I like sexually, and I think cac does too. If you're asking whether I've ever MBed in front of him to explore what I like...the answer is...no. Don't really care to, either. One change in me has been my willingness to do things that he has suggested or that I know he likes. I was so O-focused in the past that I only wanted to do it with him on top because I got the best O that way. That was the "lame sex" he referred to in the past.

One thing about me that's different from many of the LD wives of the guys here is that I was LD pretty much from the beginning. We did not have a hot sex life in the beginning. We had no courtship really. cac has mentioned our lackluster beginning. It was pretty nondescript. What I'm feeling now is closer to what others feel at the beginning of an R, as much as that is possible with someone you've been with for more than 20 years. I am feeling more monkey than I have felt in the past. Actually, I have felt monkey in the past but it came and went. This time the monkey hasn't disappeared. And I'm enjoying her and our M. I'm having fun. Not that we're doing it swinging from the chandeliers, but it's fun.

At this point I have no compelling urge to try the Peace....uh....stuff. Doesn't really appeal to me right now. Maybe it will down the road. I understood what IC wrote on Ann's thread, and there have been times in the past that I would have been into that (with cac, not you, IC, LOL) but right now, not really.

Oh, so you meant actually crazy. In that case, I would say that it is true that more single PEOPLE are crazy. I have noted a much higher percentage of conspiracy theorists and people who think Star Trek is the greatest show ever amongst non-married men than those who are married.



I'm not crazy, just a bit confused. Also, I should note that my goal isn't to "get laid" regularly. My goal is to be "affectionately man-handled" regularly. Of course, "getting laid" is frequently a type of "affectionate man-handling" so the two goals would be fairly complementary. However, there are a lot of activities that would fall under the category of "affectionate man-handling" that could be accomplished long-distance. Also, I'm sure you can see that I could be sexually monogamous yet still not be dependent on any one man to meet my stated goal. That is why I said that I might agree to the MWoC type arrangement you suggested with a man with the understanding that I would still be free to seek "affectionate man-handling" from others on my current sexual partner's busy weekends etc. Since I assume that all men to whom I am not married are actually polygamous, his weekend activities would not concern me as long as I was getting enough overall "affectionate man-handling".

Mojo,

I, for one, disagree about the Rainbow Brite coordinates. I think you would like Bratz much better.

Karen

(Mojo) Oh, so you meant actually crazy. ... I'm not crazy, just a bit confused.



You look at it however best works for you. All I'm saying is that "All single women are crazy" is my current pet theory and I'm stickin' with it 'til proved wrong.

Now that I think about it I can come up with one single girl I know who has yet to display any symptoms of crazy. We'll have to see if that stands the test of time and closer scrutiny.

Right,
Note to self if single, do NOT note fanatic interest in Star Trek in member profile.

Thanks, Mojo.

Scott
-Who will probably watch some Trek while staying in during the chilly weekend.

I knew you wouldn't be able to leave that alone, Scott.

The angels have the phonebox.

You may be right. They're both cute but the Bratz are probably more differentiated.