WOW! B...this is so exciting. I was tearing up when I was reading it. It sounds like you handled things perfectly. I think she really needed this and you were her safe place to fall.
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She thanked me over and over for letting her stay and said a few times that she hoped that I didn't think that it was weird.
I've read in a few sitch's how the WAS's think that the LBS might feel things like this are weird. I think it's intereting because to the LBS it mostly feels normal again...but it shows how 'not themselves' they are at the moment that think it would feel weird.
Good for you B! I'm thrilled for you. Can't wait to read your next post... J~
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M 35 H 29 M 4 yrs T 9 yrs D 3 S born 10/19/07 Bomb 09/10/07 Separated next day OW - broke up and H moved out 09/07/08 Status - still figuring this out
Oh, B - you made me cry! I am sooooo happy for you. You have come such a long way. I am waiting for the day when this will happen. I am so proud of you. You are my inspiration, you give me hope! Love ya, keep up the great work!
Toni
M 29/H32 M 7yrs/1 dog Bomb 10/18 M in apt 11/13/ H in the house 1st now
Great news bhopeful! Remember, don't push too hard. Sounds like your W is slowly starting to become interested again, but make sure you don't scare her off.
She IM'd me this morning saying that she really liked staying over last night. And then she invited me over for dinner tonight! I didn't even really plan on talking to her today. My plan was to keep up the no pressure thing that I have going right now. But I of course accepted.
We chatted a bit throughout the morning and then while I was taking my lunch she sent the following: W: It felt good to be back home Hopefully you aren't weirded out by me saying that B: No worries. I'm not weirded out in the least... W: Cool I'm glad for that
So we'll see how tonight goes. I'm still keeping my expectations very low, but things seem to be progressing in the right direction.
Me: 29 W: 28 T: 10 M: 7 No kids 2 Dogs and 1 Cat With Parents: 09/16/07 Apartment: 10/13/07 Back Home: ~2/16/2008
Well last night went good. Nothing R wise was discussed but she did make a few interesting comments.
1. She was talking about how all of her male friends have issues with addiction in one form or another. So I said that I didn't have any and she said "Well you're my husband.". So she still considers me her H, so that's good. 2. She said that she wants to be able to pack up all her stuff in her apartment in two hours time and be out of there. I don't really know what she meant by this other than maybe saying that she isn't tied down to the place? 3. She asked me a whole bunch if I liked the decorations that she added to her place. 4. She asked me a couple times if I thought that something that she put up in her apartment would look good in the house. 5. She made a couple comments trying to get me to stick around a little longer. (Which I did.) 6. She apologized for being so hurtful in the past.
She also asked that I call her when I got home. So I did and I threw an ILY out there and got an ILY2 back. She IM'd me first thing this morning to ask me to hang out again tonight. Things seem to be moving in the right direction, though she has yet to make a commitment to work on things. I'm basically hanging back and letting her set the pace on things. Things seem hopeful, but I still have to remember to have patience.
Me: 29 W: 28 T: 10 M: 7 No kids 2 Dogs and 1 Cat With Parents: 09/16/07 Apartment: 10/13/07 Back Home: ~2/16/2008
While I definitely see progress in my situation, I still don't really know where we stand. She hasn't recommitted at all and this is all very recent. So, right now I'm just along for the ride. Only time will tell I guess.
Thanks for the input.
Me: 29 W: 28 T: 10 M: 7 No kids 2 Dogs and 1 Cat With Parents: 09/16/07 Apartment: 10/13/07 Back Home: ~2/16/2008
At least you have something going on...I have no idea about me now. WAW said to me the other day, "I don't want you to think you have a chance" and then we proceed to spend 2.5 hours at her place talking about a bunch of stuff. So, I guess I am saying be happy with your progress.
