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..... sort of ...... (wink)

My God, you are off your game. You dangled a participle. Should I call 911?



Phhhttt. Don't let him kid you, Cozy. It isn't a Glimmer of Hope. It's the glow of Corri's Pointy Witch Shoes, warming up for work.



Only when you are sitting in your Center of the Universe Chair, munching on pizza, and utterly pissed off because the pizza box is empty, and you aren't full yet.

(hairdog) Oh, and by the way, the story fails the analogy to physical intimacy on many levels.

Dude, I said it was only half the battle. How'd you get into college with those paltry reading comprehension skillz? Oh, yeah...forget I asked.


Does it have a magic beer tap, too?

My magical kitchen has a magical beer tap from whence flows magical purple beer.

In the murkiest murk, you still have the amazing ability to crack me . . . up. And did I mention that, even when you are trying to outwit me, you fail. I ended a sentence with a preposition. Nothing dangling here except for, well, you know.

I knew this was going to get ugly fast. Kind of like what my boys did to Oklahoma last night.

Hairdog, ready for the pointy toes

Hairdog:



All part of my endless female charm and wit, I suppose.

Whatever the he!! it is called, it was dangled. And all I know is, if I ended a sentence with an 'in' a 'to' or a 'with,' in J-School, I got nailed. {sniff} Didn't matter what it was called.



Got shot down, huh? And self-comfort is starting to look better spelled as Southern Comfort, regardless if be a woman or a drink?

Worse. But let's not hijack cozy's thread. Let's go to mine.

Hairdog

i will read the story tomorrow.

i want to be right and solve the problem at the same time.

i am going to read these advices again, as well as the story about the magical kitchen with beer, or pizza, or pizza and beer, or whatever is in it!

does it have any sex in it?!

if sex isn't the problem, then what is the problem? that i am acting like a spoil brat because i won't get what i want? that i am easily manipulated? that i am not assertive enough?--which reminds me that i must get the nnmng book this weekend! barnes and noble, right? or do i have to order on line?



don't mind the going off the beaten path with my thread. at first, i found it kind of confusing, but then realized what was going on!

Cozy:



All of the above. My friend. Welcome. Welcome to The Club.

You are going to be fine. Corri Witch Shoes and all. If Blackfoot shows up... well... you're just cooked and fried.

So... Don't.

Tell her you have work to do. Find something else to do. Don't be bitchy about it. Just find a reason not to. Is it easy? Not at all. I spent two months turning down half-hearted duty sex invitations and it was noticed. Not all is peaches and cream here but I feel better about myself and when we do have sex I feel like it is more than the duty sex. Early in this thread I asked if you had to forego sex for 6 months and get better sex in the long run on one hand or settle for once a month duty sex for the rest of your life what would your choice be?

There is a power imbalance. You know this. You say "what can I do because I am helpless to resist". This is BS. You are not a 15 y/o. Yes, in general sex is a need. It however, is not like breathing. Take back your power in a pleasant, good natured way. Sacrifice sex this month, maybe next month too, in order to change the situation.

Cozy,

I suggest you have a read through Nopkins threads from about 2003-2004. You can do this by going to the search screen, typing Nopkins in the display name field and putting Newer than 5 years and Older than 4 years. Don't bother reading anything that starts RE: unless you've got several months to spare.

The Nops have been posting here for a long time. The 2003/2004 period was a period of ups and downs. Nopkins started pretty much in the same place you are at and eventually after a lot of hard work won through. They are a major success story of this board - so read carefully.

The main thing to keep in mind is that none of this is easy. All of us try and get away with thinking it should be easy but it is not. There is a lot of work to do stripping away all of the accumulated grime that has silted up over the years. And when we realise it is not easy we get angry and resentful. We have a memory of how it was easy once long ago and we just want to magic our way back to that place. The thing is it is just like trying to lose weight - you didn't put on 30 pounds overnight and you sure aren't going to lose them overnight either. And the memory of being slim once makes not one jot of difference.

Every single time you said or did something to keep the peace rather than because it was what YOU wanted was like eating an extra cookie. And every time she did the same thing that was another cookie. And slowly but surely the flab piled on. Well it's workout time!

Fran