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Hi guys,

again nothing new to report, yes Anne the local nanny is temp until i decide on an au pair. Yes atlas i believe we are married to the same person in spirit she has not made any effort to see the kids at all. I think she is getting further off the edge and realizes after my responses to her blasting emails i will not play into her drama. so where does she go from there. i guess silent since i will not fuel her fire any longer. I was a little pissed off today i got a package from her a bunch of bills for the house, i have half the utilities in my name she has the other half, well they were all due about 3 weeks ago, which i will document and i just got them today. What a mom if i wasnt an on time payee the gas or electricity could have been shut off for her children another strike against her in court showing her responsibility. Remember in some of her last emails where she shows concern about me paying the bills in her name on time? well how about getting them to me in a timely manner, she is still digging her own grave deeper.

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That's no good to deal with. Is there a way you could have them switched over and be delivered to you? I know when i was in the hospital for a while a couple years ago, we called the utility companies and they sent the bills to my mom and my mom would bring them to me or just write the check for me and i'd get her back later... just an idea, since you are still paying them.

You probably did, but keep the envelope so you can say when she sent it out.

I am keeping everything. The employee who works for me whos wife is my W's best friend says the W is blowing there phone up to help her get gigs for the wedding singer or to help her with whatever she is doing for him. Well her best friend and husband will not lift a finger to help her with OM's lame @ss career. So i am a little pissed that she can blow there phone up to benefit OM and cant call her kids or call to see the kids. she is still pathetic(have i called her that b4)hehe so either her attempts as a promoter for the wedding singer is already not panning out too well or its him just using her even more, either way it isnt affecting my goals right now,,, so off the back it goes along with all her other BS.

that sucks... i think pathetic is exactly the right word for it. I can come up with some other choice words for a mother that practically abandons her children, but i won't write that out, bad for my positive mojo. You can probably guess anyways...

keep up that ducks back and keep going. You are doing good!

thanks Anne,

i dont haveanything to report,again nothing new just in Limbo like many here, I am at the point of just get it over with. She wont respond to the divorce petition either her or her attorney or both are waiting for me to crack, not gonna happen thanks to all of you here for support. I am the strength for my children and my own sanity...

dh,

Sounds like your doing really well. I would go get a PO box right away and then call the utility companies get them put into your name and have them sent to the PO box. Document that late delivery, that is a joke.

Funny how she is now trying to use friends to get gigs for this loser. So apparently, the R with the OM is already stressed. Could this be why your not supposed to date in the work place. Hmmmm? Go figure. I would love to hear the arguments they are already having.

Just keep being the man and dad that you are. Good work. Don't respond to anything, take your time to think. What is the marine saying in training, slow is precise, precise to fast. Something like that, but if you slow down, think before you act, then act appropriately, you won't slip on the banana pills she is tossing over her shoulder.

Thanks Atlas,

I am sure their R is already feeling the stress. But again her pride will keep her telling people how great he is and stuff like that. THe employee told me she came by their house yesterday and was whining that i wont let her see her kids. She is such a moron did i not make it clear in my email that if she could setup a schedule to see the kids i would accomodate her?? i need to call my attorney and let him know this, he already knows i made a suggestion and she cant even plan it she is all over the place hitting walls in every direction, i am laughing my @ss off right now.

dh,

Isn't it crazy what they will say or do. I also get a good laugh out of their responses. My W, the counselor, once said M counseling is a crock of it and it doesn't work. Haha! So your telling me your profession is bogus, but you want PhD in it? Huh?

The real sad part overall this, is that they are sick. They have a sickness of the mind, once they reach this point, and I truly feel sorry for them. Just as I do my W. They see life through their own rose colored glasses, exhibit poor behvior choices based upon their view that are self-destructive to say the least, and hurt their own children. They might as well be a drug addict, it is really no diffrent.

True,,

THat is what my C says, even though it maybe not alcohol or a substance they are addicted to the life they have created. He told me this OM is a drug addiction, it makes her feel good when in reality like alcohol and drugs the OM will help with her own destruction. So i emailed my attorney the latest journal of the fact that i offered a visitation option and she has done nothing to acknowledge it.