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dh,

Be interested to hear how things went today, just wanted to say hi!

Hey dh, how'd it go?

Went fine, I left B4 she arrived, and got home after she left. So i didnt have to interact with her, which right now is a good thing, its better than fighting. The employee of mine that stayed at the house with her said she cried a lot. Whether it was for us, our family or just her drama i dont cry anymore so at least she is feeling something. She asked the sitter to call me and ask if she can take a few things, i said no problem. I also set some of her stuff out b4 she arrived so she can see im not a total @ss. Other than that PMA is good staying detached is getting easier everyday and the sitter said the our S had fun with W but didnt really seem to care when she left. Other than that how is everyone else???

That's good. Sounds like it went smoothly. Funny how little kids can be. He's probably just used to her leaving now and not expecting much. They are so smart even when they are that young.

Good for you on the PMA and detaching.

Thanks Anne,

Im just doing my thing and living "my" life. Another thing the sitter told me is he offered to give the W some stuff for her new place, she told him she is sleeping on an air mattress and has one bath towel. The sitter said he would give her some towels. But he also told me how the W was showing off some new shoes, seems her priorities are still screwed up. new shoes and cant even go buy a bath towel or shower curtain? she is a mess. And why cant the successful wedding singer pay for some of this crap. If i were dating someone and they needed stuff for their place and i saw that, i would surprise them with a bag from bed bath and beyond loaded with stuff. See thats how i am and she fell for someone who does not think of this....i dont get it, but dont really care much lately either, not about our M but the whole A i am in the acceptance stage with that so it doesnt really bother me anymore she lives in another city and he lives 70 miles from here so running into them is slim chance...

dh,

Sorry I'm not in the best attitude to offer great advice so I'm going to have a good laugh with you right now. An air matress??!!! Cmon! Lol! That is so funny, and one bath towel. Boy hope those shoes are nice.

My W did the same crap. It is so funny to watch. Can't buy groceries but she sure had a knock club clothes. Haha! I bet she meet the men of her dreams there. I know no one who ever meets anyoone of value at the clubs. When do people realize it's about getting loaded and sex, not relationships? Funny.

so true atlas, but want can we do but sit back and laugh at our spouses that dont have a clue....

thanks for the giggle

so true atlas, but want can we do but sit back and laugh at our spouses that dont have a clue....

thanks for the giggle

nothing new to report,

W ccalled last night to speak with S, let it go to message then called her back and let S leave her a message, not much content to his message but i did try. She called back and when i clicked the phone i didnt say anything just handed the phone to S, OW was here we were goign to a big party last night had a blast. WStalled on the phone like usual, i told her a nanny was starting wed she was a little hesitant and asked how she would see the kids, i itold her she knew the nanny and that she could come by the house and visit. She ended with saying i might call back later to talk to our S, i told her the sitter would be here i am going to ap arty her response was "oh" so i ended the phone call, was very civil and open not short but also not too talkative, I think the W is getting the feeling im moving on.....

W sent me an email at about 1AM asking about visitation with the kids while the nanny is with them. I wrote her back this morning here is what i sent:

I received your email regarding you coming to see Xander after Natalie picks him up from Wee School. Xander does not go back until next week. I told her you would visit with our kids from time to time but I would like to set a schedule for that. She is planning on taking them to the park and other places so I believe it would be in the best interest for the kids if it was a set schedule. Let me know what days and times work for you and I will talk to Natalie about it.

So i believe my guess about her day job is true, it doesnt exist.

The nasty emails have stopped and we are talking in a civil manner as little as we do talk its better than fighting. She still does not go to counseling and she hasnt done anything else about the psych eval. I think she is starting to see that i am not going to give in anymore and that the kids are fine where they are at. So i will keep everyone updated.