WOW What a cool friend to have!!!! Wow again that he came down and helped. It sounds like your husband does have some nice traits about him.
I am slowly waiting. My husband has been working really long hours. So hoping once it is done he may get better. Life is no fun when your stuck at work 7 days a week.
I miss my babies. They spent the night at neighbors BOTH nights (their choice). D6 will miss me today and I will slurp on her when I get home from work. D3? Not so much. She probably won't notice I have been gone.
I have three goals this week, you guys ready?
1) No pursuit of H. Friendly, cordial, receptive, but no pursuit.
2) Working out 4 times, and drinking more water. SallyM, I blame you for this one. Your quietly guilting me with your new 'caffeine free' life....
3) Contacting and making appt with therapist, and finding resources on mediation.
SallyM. I suppose you are right about separating #3 into two separate goals. Very good point.
I was thinking last night, with the girls gone, that maybe I should try and get used to this, since it may happen for real sometime soon.....sigh......
sgctxok, Thanks! Phew!! I really hope I don't upset her. I just see so much of myself in her, I wanted to help. You and jeanette are amazing support. I use what you tell her in my own life.
(((HUGS))) lwb, yes, it is hard. its very hard. especially since you work so your time is limited anyway. that is going to suck when I am back working and the kids time is alreayd limited.
but there are good sides, too. remember its good for your kids to spend time with their dad. remember there are so many men out there (none here, but its not uncommon) to write their kids off, as well as their wives, when they leave. your h's desire to be an active father is a good thing...for your kids' sake, it is. and after some time passes and it becomes more routine for them to be gone, its a bit easier to relax/gal during that time. it feels so weird at first, and I bawled my eyes out every single friday when they left for a very long time, but now I'm a bit better. I am taking some time for me. and as much as I'd rather have my family back and intact, I'm still appreciating that that, too, can be a good thing.
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
just makes sure that when you've got time to yourself that you have something set up (which means getting out of the house or dealing with other people face to face) for when you don't have the girls.
I noticed the difference between Christmas/New Year and this weekend just gone. This weekend I went out dancing with a friend which was great but over the holidays I didn't plan so well and spent a lot of time moping.
I have lots of things planned while H has the kids this week. Pedicure, lunch with a friend, and some other little things too. And I booked a sitter for next Saturday night. I did hibernate a bit over the holidays as well, got too comfy with the kids off school and H and I home a lot more.
