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hey wcw,

is it too late to answer?

Answer: no clue!
Supplemental answer: Well, he is sending me lots of forwards and we have had a few nice typed chats...

brava

I have internet!!! (imagine a Snoopy-esque happy dance!)

Hello All,

I am back and online!

As efficient as everything is here in Japan .. internet was a slow process.

Its hard to believe but I have been here in Kobe for 2 mnths already. Time really does fly!

How is everyone??? I have to find your threads.


I am enjoying Japan. I have been eating more Italian food and French and German bread and pastries than ever before. Yes, I am also eating Japanese but I am hogging out on the chocolate and foreign inspired yum-yums!

Luckily , no more car... so I walk a lot. I should have lost weight by now but not the case as I munch my way through my time here!

I love my classes and students and my colleagues are really nice too.

COntact with H has been decent. No voice to voice.. just emails and chatting. I wonder if he hooked up the webcam I gave him.
I have to say the distance has been a blessing as I can remove myself from certain things. Escaping? Maybe... but that is just fine with me!

Glad to be back!

Bravagal

Hi Brava! Glad to hear that you're doing so well. I don't think that the distance is a bad thing, especailly if you feel so relaxed. Fantastic! Be well.

She's back!
How's the new pad?
Do you initiate contact with H or do you leave it up to him?

I'm back indeed. Japan is nice and the new pad is way bigger than I thought it would be. Esp. roomy if H never comes!

I've been doing well here but in a funk lately. Another one of the zillions of shifts inside me re: H and our R. I have also realized here that I want a family... ideally with H but I repeat, I want a family.

I have yet to catchup with everyone's sitch. Where are you guys? Where should I go?
I have seen soooo many posts from moderators ... wow, thats what happens when I leave a few months. Just can't leave you kids alone now can I?!?!

WCW, amd, how goes it????

Hugs,
bravagal

Does family = baby?
If that plan is with H it would be easier if you were at least in the same country with him!
How is H doing?
Do you still love him? Do you want to spend your life with him raising a family?

hi WCW,

i'm new here so i don't know your sitch but i just wanted to say that i love your quote about hoping to be the person your dog thinks your are. that's great! my dogs worship me and i don't think i could get through any of this without them. unconditional love!

xoxo

geeesh - heavy questions , wcw! :grin

and yes, that means a kid, and yes, I love him and yes, I would want to start a family with him ... so we will see what happens this next year.


H is busy and sometimes I think he is doing great... then he IMs me at 3am (his time) to tell me that he is soo drunk. (this from the guy who would get so mad if I drank a 2nd glass of wine and was disgusted by people who got drunk when they went out.)

so good reminder... nope he is not doing great. ah yes, it will be interesting to see where he is taking himself.

the good news is I am in japan and doing what I have dreamed of doing... while still managing to keep a part of my heart open to him.

being so far also kinda makes the control thing issue that I have a bit more noticable and managable.

(wow, my typing keeps getting worse as I age!)

how are things here?

brava

Hmm, maybe I need to get a dog. My parents treat my sis's dog like a grandchild...
that might solve the whole family problem.

Lots of purse-sized dogs here. Even the men in their fancy suits are often walking a teeny dainty little dog here.

Thanks for visiting hope99!

bravagal