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ditto here

I was thinking how when we are married we have a big gathering of friends and family. We get up and say vows before them and God. We also sign a contract with each other that has to be witnessed by two people. Maybe this should be required to leave a marriage.

Bring back all the friends and family and explain in front of them and God why you are breaking your vows. Oh, and witnesses of course. Sort of a reverse wedding. This way people could not just sneak off and say anything they want.

Great idea! I think the D rate would drop! My H would have a horrific time trying to explain what's going on to all his friends and family....he would die of embarassment! MOW's H should attend too so he can hear how much in love H is with her and how he doesn't know if he'll be able to survive w/out her!

Love that idea as well! I often feel that I have disappointed my family and friends who gave us gifts and took the time to come to our ceremony. I am embarrassed.

My W also told me that we are all but legally divorced. Sad, but I believe that God is the ultimate judge.

My H is 25. QLC? Everything fits. His OW is 12 years older, 37 years old! He spends all his time with her & her friends, going out and drinking. Even brings our d3 around her! he left me 2 1/2 weeks ago. H has a bad childhood- his dad drank til H was 10.
H & I got married young (he was 21) and became parents the same year. He's had the same job for 6 years.
And yes, he did say last week that since we're separated, "it's okay that me and OW are together". He even said that she was "respectful" of me. WTF?? I wanted to punch him!

Of course, they all say that. They respect us soooo much they are helping us out by having an affair with our husbands. See they are really being nice. Sorry, don't buy it. If it walks and talks like a duck.....

ugh, isn't there a way of just shaking some d@mn sense into them?

Like, (shake, shake), "Why are you being like this? I love you!" (shake, shake) "I know all of your good points and your faults, and I love and accept you. Don't throw this away." (shake, shake)

If only it were so easy. not talking about our M is sooo hard

My H never really got a time to go out and party. He lived with his mom until we married & moved in together. His last relationship ended right before him and I got back together.

Incidently, when we were teenagers we dated for 3 years. After we broke up, he dated another girl for 3 years, cheating on her physically twice. Soon after they broke up, me and him started talking again and got back together. We've been together almost 4 years now. I've caught him twice talking to acquaintainces of ours online sexually (real life friends too, not just online strangers), and now this. Definetly a pattern.

I don't want to give up on my marriage. But sometimes I just think, what am I fighting for? He's so hell bent on a divorce. Says that he was miserable with me. Says he doesn't love me like the way a married couple should love each other. Says I love you but I'm not in love with you. And he won't take responsibility for his part of our problems, or even his affair now.

still reading - but my h has fallen to the worlds view also. he left - we are seperated. to him it isn't the dreaded affair...

ha...can't marry her though can you?? THATS CAUSE YOU ARE STILL MARRIED DING DONG!!--even if he doesn't want to or does want to..still married. married. married.