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Better yet... we can text message... "Hey gorgeous.. you doing OK this evening?"

Gets em every time!!

lwb,
My XH used to look at the cell phone bill to see who I was talking to also. My only suggestion would be to try and not let it bother you...they are going to do what they are going to do...even if it's snooping on their faithful wives. My XH still wants to know what I'm doing. Just the other day, he was so sure that I was shopping with his mom and sis that he pushed me to tell him where I was. I told him the truth that I was at the guy's house that I'm seeing....I little taste of his own medicine. I got to believe that as much as he hates me spending time with his family....he also hates the fact that I'm dating.

Good for you, Hope!

Lwb, I think I may have told you my WAW thinks the reason I go to my support group meetings and even my bible study classes is to meet other women. In fact, that's what she undoubtedly thinks all my GAL efforts are for, to hook up with women.

Sheesh, either she just doesn't know me at all anymore or her own guilt has driven her insane ... or both.

I'm thinking this is all part of the alien mind-bending effect.

This whole "fear of us dating" thing is grounded in their own admission to themselves that they screwed this up. Big time. They fear that we may meet somebody who is, at the very least, as good as they are. And this new person is probably less likely to cheat on us in the future.

The fundamental basis for these reactions is guilt. It starts with the guilt of knowing that they are, deep down, seriously flawed. Their own guilt drives these feelings of insecurity.

As long as they are "on the fence," they will continue to have these feelings of insecurity. As soon as these feelings are gone... so are they.

Hi LWB,

Happy New Year.
Hope you get all the wishes you want.

Ok, thank you for the mortifying loud laugh I just did, all by myself, in my office!!

Just when H googles one area code...another call comes in...then a text...then another call, different area code...I am loving it. Serves him right.....

I went out last night, saw Sweeney Todd, per SallyM's recommendation. It was very good. You have to appreciate both Burton and Depp to enjoy it. I do, and I did. Then went to a local bar and had a few drinks.

When I got home, Goldilocks was in MY bed. Both girls and H were sleeping. I put the girls in their beds, took a shower, then woke H (I would assume he would panic waking up next to his wife!). I didn't kick him out, just said "Don't you need an alarm set somewhere?" since he worked at 4am. He said, "Can you set yours for 2:45am?". Um, ok. Night honey. Haven't seen your body in my bed since May, but whatever.

I AM NOT READING ANYTHING but exhaustion into what happened last night. H was tired from his weekend of sin and trying to act 21 yrs old, and he just didn't want to get up.

It was odd...very odd...to have him sleep next to me.

I am working, H is home with the girls.

Happy New Year to all.

Thinking of SueS!

omg, I am lol so hard at the goldilocks comment, lwb. seriously.

honestly I wouldn't read anything into it, personally, but only because h used to do the same thing from time to time when he was still here but on the couch.

not trying to dash any hopes, I hope you know that. you never know, right? its not over till its over.

honestly, I love that you woke him up. lol.

it must have been really odd to sleep with him...but tell the truth, was it a little nice, too?

SallyM, not one single ounce of hope about the bed thing. I am solid, sister.

It was...not good...but just kind of sad...that we are so far apart now. That there was a stranger next to me.....

Oh and for the record all you anti-snoopers.......

H left his cell phone 'in the open' last night. Only because I was out. I could have had a time with it, snooping til my heart was full, since H was sleeping.

It was untouched.

I laughed out loud about that, too! And, you know we would all do it!!!