Hey NT...shoes are fab!!! Thanks for checkin' on me!
H and I don't really communicate much. Once or twice a month usually. I gotta figure out a way to get him to contact me more...just don't know how to do it without it seeming like I'm pursuing...know what I mean? I was kinda conflicted as to what to do for a while there. I don't really know what I want right now so I was given the advice to just chill for a minute. It's been just over a week or so, close to two weeks. So I figured I'd throw the hook out there...see what I catch.
Caught a little something...a nugget... Sent H a TM saying 'Just thinkin bout u. Wanted to say hi.' He responded back with 'Hey!' Sounded kinda positive...so I pressed on. On a whim I sent 'Miss U Dude' and he responded 'U2'. Wow...
Left it at that, but coupla days later I sent him a joke TM. He sent me back a VERY sexual TM...Ooooweee...didn't know Fred Flintstone got down like that!!!!
So that's where we are right now. He moves to the new place with the Side Piece this Sat (bummer) but...like I said, it's all good. I'm still on his mind...
Its like everyone says. Time is on our side. It might not seem that way but it is. I'm glad to see you still got that great PMA. I'm going to borrow some of that next week when I go back to see W and kids.
Ya know...I really don't think I want to continue trying to save my marriage. Feels like I'm at the point of just letting go and moving on...since H has clearly moved on without me. And especially since I believe he feels he has a committment to his new monkey....seeing how she had his baby and all.
Yup...the trick got pregnant and they had a baby together June, 2007. Only 6 months after H left home. So according to MY calculations, she got pregnant around the Sept/Oct, 2006 timeframe when H was still at home with me. Sounds about right...he started acting real funny around Nov, 2006. Probably when she told him she was pregnant.
Needless to say, the shyte hit the fan when I found out about that one. And now they have moved in together....one big happy family. Right....
So even though H has been slowly coming around with the "I miss yous" and what-not...I don't think I can keep going with this hanging over my head. Even if he does come back, this trick will forever be in our lives.
I consider myself to be a pretty strong person...a strong, independent woman. But this...devastating. I don't have enough strength to deal with this one. I spent YEARS...wasted YEARS...pleading with him to start a family together. We each have one child outside of the marriage but none together....I wanted that sooo bad. He was adamant "I don't want no more kids!!!" he would always say to me. So I guess he just didn't want no more kids WITH ME.
I don't know of anybody else that has ever had to deal with this type of shyte. How do you go on after this??? I don't think there is enough shoes, boots or clothes in the world to get me past this one....
(((LJ)))). I don't even know what to say. I have often played that scenario over and over in my own head and I have not clue what I would do. First off, be thankful that you at least have some insight into why he was funny actiing. I know it does not make things better, but it does help to know if was not something you did. He had his own crap to deal with and he did not know how to. This is a pretty big one to get over especially seeing as how you wanted kids yourself with him. Honestly I don't think I could forgive this one. This will be a constant reminder of what has happened. I am pretty sure it won't work out with his new woman. It never does in these cases. My H's mom was the other woman and my H's dad got her pregnant with two kids back to back. She was pregnant again by the time she went for her 6 week visit. I actually think he did go back to his wife, but I don't think things were the same and my H and is sister got the short end of the stick. To be honest I think you deserve better than this fool. You don't need this. Does not really seem like he can stand on hin own two feet. If you thought he was broke before he is REALLY going to be broke now. I say cry lots of tears, get some therapy if you need to and post on the board. Feel free to email or call me if you need to. Let him go on and his live his life. He is her problem now. Don't pray for him. Pray for his unborn child because that is who is going to need it. Start D proceedings ASAP because if she goes after child support if you are still married they can come after you. BTW how did you find out>
Also, I did not get your email. Sent it again. I am merrifamily3@sbcglobal.net. I would love to hang out, maybe get a drink or something.
Thanks Hope...I didn't think about the child support thing. He has a child from a previous marriage that he is already paying child support for. Ironically, his previous W did the same thing to him. She had an affair and got pregnant then asked him if she should keep the baby. He was like 'sure, why not?' then he divorced her.
I am feelin' you on the divorce thing now. I have been struggling with it for a while now. All indications point in that direction. It's just weird that now he is reaching out to me when I finally get over this mess and start moving on with my life.
BTW...the kid is about 6-7 months old now...born June, 2007. Get this, I found out from a co-worker of his, where he works now...first decent job he has had in 10 years....at the job that I helped him get! How ironic is that....I spoke to the Director of the place he is working and they hired him...so I guess I helped him end our marriage, huh??
Thanks Hope...I didn't think about the child support thing. He has a child from a previous marriage that he is already paying child support for. Ironically, his previous W did the same thing to him. She had an affair and got pregnant then asked him if she should keep the baby. He was like 'sure, why not?' then he divorced her.
I am feelin' you on the divorce thing now. I have been struggling with it for a while now. All indications point in that direction. It's just weird that now he is reaching out to me when I finally get over this mess and start moving on with my life.
BTW...the kid is about 6-7 months old now...born June, 2007. Get this, I found out from a co-worker of his, where he works now...first decent job he has had in 10 years....at the job that I helped him get! How ironic is that....I spoke to the Director of the place he is working and they hired him...so I guess I helped him end our marriage, huh??
Sent H a TM saying 'Just thinkin bout u. Wanted to say hi.' He responded back with 'Hey!' Sounded kinda positive...so I pressed on. On a whim I sent 'Miss U Dude' and he responded 'U2'. Wow...