Last night was long. D6 wasn't feeling good through the night. H didn't come up to help (I have no idea when he got home..but was home when D6 was up), probably couldn't face me. I was fine with that. H also totally overslept and was late for work. That's what happens when you try to function on 2 hours of sleep a night. No WAY was I waking him, he's a big boy, I am not his mother.
I charged my phone last night and this morning, I discovered H had 'rifled' through my calls. Umm, he deleted all my private 'received' calls (work). Search away...H...you will find nothing.
Hope everyone slept well last night. I have been thinking about our SueS a lot!
A few weeks back, when H was surprised when I mentioned that I have been 'fighting' for him all summer, I realized that maybe that part of DB wasn't working for me. While I would from time to time state I wanted our family intact, wanted him to stop his A, etc, I never once begged, pleaded, or told him I loved him no matter what. His primary complaint (I think like your H) was my neglect of him, my lack of concern for him, and maybe he is still seeing that now.
I am so happy things are slowly turning around for you, I am glad you took DB and made it work for you. I agree that DB has helped me in SO many ways. It forced me to pick myself up, change what I wanted to change and be a better parent. Not to mention that amazing support that I found on this board...WOW.
Sorry he is being such a sh!t. I cannot believe he is so paranoid about your phone.. what the heck is he hoping to find?? and at this point why does he care, maybe to use it against you since maybe he wants to take the pressure off of himself looking like the bad guy.. wow.. just can't understand.
I hope you have a better 2008, you deserve it honey.
tal
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
wow, h is acting just like mine did, lwb. seriously, I think he still checks my phone. but he's never deleted numbers, that I find funny for some reason. I mean, what does that accomplish, really?
I wonder if he thinks its ow's h??? seriously. when she calls it comes up as private caller, right? so maybe he thinks her h is calling you, and its pissing him off.
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
SallyM, OW's H's phone isn't private. His actual number is in my 'received calls' and I have nothing to hide (H knows I speak to him), so I haven't deleted a thing. The only reason OW's number is private on H's phone (or my...grrrr..home phone) is because she makes it that way. She is so special. Vomit.
Hey, lwb... why don't you send out your mobile number to us all via email. Then we can all call in at all odd hours... and drive your goofy husband crazy!!
Here is him thinking as he snoops your received calls list: "hmmm.... area code 403... where is that??? And what's this... area code 513... received at 11PM??? Area code 440 at 5:30AM??? 312 at 2:20PM??....770 at 9AM??.... 614 at 8PM....AAAAAGGGGGHHHHHH!!!!"
