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I have no problem with your desire to feel passion again and go to the guy's house. However, cheating is cheating and it always is a sign of some kind of chickensh*ttedness.

After our last conversation I pretty well figured you were.




So your marriage is really bad, and you feel dead inside, but not it's not bad enough to end no matter what, or if the other guy doesn't want you, so you want to make sure of that first before letting your husband in on it. I understand.

Being all giddy with swirly neurotransmitters wasn't quite what I meant when speaking of "rational choices".

You will do whatever it is you're going to do. I won't even tell you to be careful because you're clearly beyond that.

But do remember that "I will live with the consequences!" sounds a lot easier than it usually is, after the chemicals settle in the clear light of day, and someone has to deal with the clean-up.

Practically speaking.

Chemical buzz LFL. It is telling you things that are not reality, even if they feel real.

Sorry your H isn't doing it for and to you.

Lou

PS if I cyber pulled your hair, would that help?

and this is different from your H ambushing you after the fact because....?

while i feel your pain, and live it over here too, it doesn't make it okay.

Well, he just cancelled on me because his kids are staying over, as they should, considering...

A sign?
Probably.

I'm insane. It's official.

LFL

Probably. Just remember that a single guy who will hook up with a married woman is kind of like a guy in his 20s who will date a girl in high school. His appeal might just be relative to your current situation.

Let me see if I got this right...I come on here looking for advice on how to fix a f*ck-up from 8 months ago, to try and save my marriage and I pretty much get my ass chapped about how I could do this blah blah blah....And then we have a similar position about to happen that might tear apart a marriage and we hear "A woman's got to do what a woman's got to do?????????"

hmmmm....interesting.

I think my comments to the two of you were very consistent. Adultery is mega-dysfunctional-monkey behavior although the motivation is quite understandable. When you enact that sort of mega-deception you are mostly just lying to yourself about your unresolved dependency issues. If you came on here and posted that 8 mos. ago you told Miss IC "I'm sick of this no sex sh*t. I'm going out to the bar to get laid." my only problem would be figuring out why you still needed to join this BB.

Yes they were Mojo and thank you. I'm right there with you on the adultery issue...but yet I did it. Lying to myself? F*cking A right I was and so is LFL. Looking back, I probably should have said that to Miss IC...might have changed a lot, but as you put it...I took the chicken [censored] way out. LFL...so are you.

Oh Imagine that, my foul mouth finally got [censored] by the board...only took what 4 1/2 months