I'm so sorry you're in this situation. Don't totally freak about her filing for sole custody as it can be a legal strategy some L's use but especially in your case, you live far away. So, how can you physically share custody without totally disrupting the kid's lives? Maybe she means sole physical custody but joint legal custody (important choices about schools and religion, for instance, are shared) and there is a reason for that. For routine decision making a parent needs to be there. Having "joint physical custody" when you live so far apart doesn't make sense does it?
I know it hurts and I'm not saying don't fight it, just don't read into it too much b/c I suspect her L suggested it as a practical matter. Why not move to be near them? I never understood your desire to leave the original area unless it's OW and if so, does it really take geographic distance to keep you away from OW now? I didn't think so either.
So, move near your kids and get joint custody. My brother did it, twice, because his ex wife moved to get more control/money/revenge. But he "caught up" and got 50/50 custody and is close to his girls.
He's made huge sacrifices but hey, that's what dads do. Good luck, don't despair. It ain't over yet. j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
are you around these boards anymore? If so, just sending you a Merry Christmas and I mean that. Hope you are finding peace and forgiveness within, if not also from your W. ((( j ))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
