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i saved and printed them and they hang from the right side of my computer screen...quick update
We went out to dinner (my invitation) on Tuesday night...I noticed that she was having an issue with her car (I am a car dealer)and offered to have it looked at and fixed for her the following day she received a discount on the part (47.50 total) and I did the work myself (to demonstrate my ability to take care of her and fix things right?) she was dutifully impressed and asked if she could buy me pizza for dinner...I accepted and we had a great time chatting again ...she mentioned that she was going to a bachelorette party on friday and that therwas going to be some male exotic dancers performing so I told her to take lots of 1.00 bills and to have a good time ....the last thing I told her was if things got too hot and she got too stirred up or drank too much to call me and I would take care of those problems for her. I fell asleep like normal around 1am and at 1 45am she sent me a text message asking if I was awake and if she could come by and 'visit' me she repeated it 12 minutes later and got no response (aaagghhh!) I sent her a message about 1pm today offering her a rain check and she responded that I had my chance and missed out ...I responded that I had only offered it because I felt like she had been the one missing out ...then later in the afternoon I sent her a text asking how the party went etc. and that conversation ended with us going into the city for a nice dinner together and then getting back to my place about 11pm ...I got out and she came around to get into her car (had to road test it) and thanked me and then hesitated like she was waiting for me to kiss her good night and I thanked her for the nice time and went into my house ...thats 3 dates (sort of) and 1 midnight booty call out of 7 nights I have no idea why she has been so nice and other than my comment about what to do if the stripper stirred her up I have made no overt sexual advances which has been very difficult we go out we talk and we laugh and we have a good time and she goes home. should i be trying to hustle her into bed or should I wait until the next opportunity for her to suggest it or ?? I mean we are scheduled to go to trial in 6-7 weeks to get divorced ...what does the brain trust of DB think ?


me-H- 45
Her- W - 28
No kids of our own
I have 1 S- 20 - goes to university out of the area
I also have 1- D - 17 Freshman in College 120 miles away
Married 6 1/2 years together for 7 1/2
She dropped the bomb 12/17/ 2005
back 6/2006 left again 7/2006 back 10/2006 filed for divorce 9/27/2007 ----Trail scheduled for 2/20/2008 we are supposed to be going to the Catholic (me) rejuvenation workshop on 2/15/2008 for the weekend Trial will most likely be postponed by me for two months at least