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Gosh, reading these boards and many other affairs/divorce boards it really is striking the exact same one-liners our spouses/STBX's use. I think I have heard them all, I am gonna post the ones I heard and would like to see others that you have heard, there is a definite "language" that they learn, its like all cheaters are all all sharing the same brain:

"I need space, you are not giving me space"

"I need to breathe"

"I dont feel as though I have done anything wrong, I have never given you a reason NOT to trust me!" - It was this statement that truly revealed her BP to myself and the therapist.

"You always think in Black and White, I want to live in GREY for now. If you ask me RIGHT NOW to make a decision you are going to get BLACK."

"I feel like you are my FATHER, not my husband"

"I want to see changes in YOU"

"I dont want to give you false hope"

"I didnt say I want a divorce but I dont see another way, I am not going back there"

"I have nothing but resentment for you"

"YOU deserve better"

"The kids will be better off"

"We are so much healthier apart" - Since or seperation she has lost her job, is on Seroquel, Klonopin and Effexor. She has already received one eviction notice and has lost 40 lbs, and claims severe depression.

*This is all in a span of a few months I have been told this garbage, what are some one liners you have heard (I have prolly heard them too just have forgotten)

Can I add a few??

"It hasn't been good for us in a LONG time"

or

"I haven't been happy for years"

"I just don't see how it can possibly get any better"

Thanks!

SueS

Yeah, definitely heard "haven't been happy in years". Could have fooled me!

here is one I get all the time...

"I just can't get over the past, I don't think you can change and the changes I see I have a hard time believing they are just not to get me home"

so that leaves me thinking what the heck... I try to change to fix some issues and you criticize the motive of my efforts of course my efforts are for you to be home..... but at the same time my efforts are based on having a revalation of some issues that I had/have that need to be improved for me as well!!!

Yeah thats a tough one too. When they tell you "I dont think you will ever change", basically my STBX is telling me that she doesnt think I will ever trust her again, and perhaps shes right. BUT, they never seem to see that THEY are the ones that desperately need to change and its been proven over and over its pointless to tell them so. What an exercise in frustation this all is.

"We have NEVER gotten along with each other. We are like oil and water."

"We should NEVER have gotten married."

"We have NEVER loved each other; it was all a lie."

"Why would I want to go back to that?"

"You were not there for me when I really needed you."

"OP is my soul-mate."

"I have spent most of my life giving to you, my family and everyone else. I have spent all these years denying my own self. It is time I got to be happy. I deserve to be happy for a change."

"You haven't been happy in a long time"

"This is just a temporary separation. We just need some time to work on things"

After just leaving your bed after some separation sex in which he professed his love and commitment to you he sends the following text a few hours later..." I can't forget the past. I am sorry. You will be happier this way."

Give me more time. I bet I can come up with many more lame statements.

Here's a corollary to the "I don't believe you can or will ever change."

"There is nothing you can say that will change my mind. Actions speak louder than words. It's what you do that I pay attention to."

... and then the WAS will later say:

"I certainly haven't seen it. I don't see where you have changed, despite what you or anyone else thinks."

(Yeah? Well, do you think maybe getting your head out of your arse might help?)

"We are really great at being friends but lack that connection"

"Maybe we just need time apart in order to figure out what we really have"

"ow is a really good person. her heart is in the right place"

"I just don't see that things can ever be different between us"

"OW is happy and smiles all the time"

Well yeah - she was fcuking MY husband - no wonder I wasn't smiling!!!!!!! Funny how he has forgotten this now we are back together - that's proof that sanity can re ocurr!!!! Just hang in there guys.