Yes, Miss Hope and I are having lunch tomorrow, if my pager doesn't go off...maybe I'll ignore it if that happens..... I am sure H will think I am on a date. Hope described herself and I told her to look for the opposite and she'll find me. lol She sounds beautiful, inside and out........
Theo. I am so grateful you came to see me. Thank you so much. Really. And yes, it is so very hard to get a life, while all other parts of our life is falling apart around us. I am not having much fun either, I can admit that. I am here for the girls and when I concentrate really hard on having fun with them, it happens. I am working on not letting H bring me down with his constant reminders of my flaws: selfishness, cold hearted to name a few. I am thinking of you theo, and hope that we can both dig ourselves out of the painful hole.
I have learned that deserve so much more, and want that for myself, whether its my 'old' husband back, or someone new when the pain has resolved.
You pegged it. I have nothing left but to move forward. I cannot sit and feel this raw pain anymore. If someone described my situation to me, I would give that person that same advice, I think. Its time. I have given it months. And yes Ohio_Mark, I don't feel I should make the first moves. H has been talking for months about moving out and now when I say "Go", he stays.
He stuttered and stammered today when I told him he needs to get his own checking acct (we discussed this just 2 days ago). I told him I was researching mediators. He is all "Why are you pushing this?". He admitted to buying OW a mother's bracelet. A wise SallyM noted how ironic he is applauding OW's ability to mother, when she is tearing her own family apart. I told him I knew about the bracelet she gave to him.
I am rambling.
I wanted to thank all the 'men' for offering to snatch me up. The problem is, I don't see what your wives' problems are, because I know any DB lady on here would snatch the fellows up in a heartbeat....... The men on here are kind hearted, appreciative, faithful, and wonderful fathers.
Ok. Deal. If I get a big screen out of this, I can hold a MO DBfest.
Hope described herself and I told her to look for the opposite and she'll find me. lol She sounds beautiful, inside and out........
Thanks lwb. I think we both are amazing, beautiful woman and we are going to have a great time....it's always great to meet people going through the same thing...makes us feel a little less alone.
M:28, D finalized: 8/28/07 Current Thread
"When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile."
LWB, I just don't get your H ... he continues his contact with OW, exchanges gifts with her, but doesn't understand why you are pushing for separate accounts? Perhaps OW has brain washed him a bit since she thinks having an open M is acceptable.
And everything is still your fault?? That seems like a psychological defense to me. He's protecting himself -- he's trying to make you look/feel bad so that he isn't the bad guy. Perhaps he's desperate because you've been so strong. Just trying to get at you somehow? Or maybe it's his reaction to all of his guilt.
Enjoy your lunch with Hope tomorrow -- you deserve a good time.
