One of these days she's gotta realize how much better her life is with you in it...and how it would be even that much better with you together as a real family. Hope she gets to work on that depression though, seems like that'll have to come first.
Me: 43 W: 41 Together 2009, Married 2011 Sons 10 and 6, Daughter 5 Bomb 2/21/21. W moved out 10/2021
Hope things go well tonight when your W gets over to see D!
Things went really well, although W is starting to look really run down. Every day I see her she gets more and more sick, but refuses to go to her doctor for anything. I ended up taking D today, so she has an ear infection and I've got a sinus infection - W is just weird about going to the doctor (she won't even take D - I have to do it). W had a really nice new coat and sweater on tonight, which she said she bought from a thrift store last night. I didn't realize she was so broke she couldn't buy new clothes for herself.
We all went out to dinner together, which was nice - It was obvious that W missed D a lot, so I made sure they had lots of time together to play. W gave D a bath and we put her to bed after reading her a story (D was reading it with W, then as soon as I got in the room she wanted me to read it instead).
W and I ended up spending some time together while she worked on her laptop and she showed me a bunch of fun things she was doing with it. She obviously has been doing nothing other than playing with it since she got it. I think she stayed for about an hour and a half after D went to bed, but she was too sick to stay any later.
At one point she was talking about OM - Something about how he has a giant TV in his room (he lives with his Mom), but has a cardboard box for a night stand. She was bitching about him, but I'm not sure if that is her way of trying to make it appear that she doesn't have the feelings she does, or if she is trying to convince herself. The guy just sounds like a complete loser - He just stays home all the time playing Call of Duty or something. I'm sure W feels really special after she moved out of my house and spends pretty much every evening she's not with me alone because this guy doesn't do anything. I guess it is really true that people 'affair down'.
When W left she told me that she was sad because she missed D and that she couldn't stay away from her any longer. She gave me a hug and a kiss, we did ILY. She seemed concerned that I was sick, which felt nice.
One of these days she's gotta realize how much better her life is with you in it...and how it would be even that much better with you together as a real family. Hope she gets to work on that depression though, seems like that'll have to come first.
I don't know if she'll do anything about her depression unless something really bad happens first - That was the only way she started on anti-depressants in the first place, but I think she needs to either modify the dosage or work with a C on some of her problems.
I really don't understand her thought process of wanting to eliminate all consistency and structure in her life for someone who after six months continues to make no effort to want her in his life as anything as someone he just IM's all day long.
We were talking about something in the car tonight and she mentioned how much people spend on weddings and it's all over in a day. I just said "Yeah, I won't be doing it that way next time" and she didn't say a word.
