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hi husband. Just caught up on your new thread. I have no more pull with the mods, they lock me up just like everyone else these days. \:\)

Hope things are going well. A kiss on the lips, huh???

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Husband,

What kind of letter is it? Just curious. Didn;t you send a letter like a couple months ago? Is this a different kind of letter? Hope you have good results with it!! I will keep my fingers crossed for you.

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Husband,

Just wanted to let you know that I'm thinking of you. It's hard waiting for a response to something so close to your heart. Let's hope she's really taking the time to think things through and will decide to open her heart. I know that you're tired of the limbo.. (((husband))).
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H - thinking about you! I know this must be stressful.


Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7
Bomb 1 10/07/06
Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15
Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07
Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate
2/08 slowly improving
7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!)
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Trying,

The letter:

XXXXXX, We have had one hell of a year, hasn’t we?
I know that our old marriage
Is dead and over, and I don't want to just go
Through the motions of being married anymore.
I would like to start out the
New Year with a new Chapter in our lives
I think you are the most beautiful woman in the
World. You are a great Mom to XXXXXXXX, Dedicated and
Concerned about his education.
You are so smart in the analytical things, Money planning vacations / outings / parties
I love it when you smile. I want
so bad to hold you. To kiss you.
I want to rediscover each other.
I'm ready to do whatever it takes to move forward.
I think together we can get through anything and I want to give our marriage another Try
I'd like to try dating you again, and see where
It leads. I want to start off with that trip to the casino we started t
o go to before you got sick months ago. I would like to have dinner, go to the casino and just enjoy each other company. I would like to spend the night at our Clear lake time share so we don’t have far to drive. This is not intended to be an “intimate” weekend. I will sleep in the couch if you prefer. I just want to forget about everything and just have it be you and me for a night.
Can I make the reservations????? Just for a Saturday night????? I would like to do this before I leave in February to Vegas.
I will be waiting with bell on my toes (all five) for your answer

Love ya
Husband


No word yet but........ She has been at he mom's all day and since she has been home has been really nice. Son and I were watching UFO's on t v and she brought us a snack and asked if I wanted something to drink. Now keep in mind when ever she goes to her mom's house she usualy makes a rum n coke. I want to get off this for tonight. Don't want to mess anything up. I truley feel it can go either way right now which is good to me.

Thanks for all the crossed finger and Hugs

Husband


And if I claim to be a wise man, well
It surely means that I don't know
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Keep us posted. She seems scared to approach you but it doesn't seem she is being distant....

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LWB,
Still here, Yes Yes yes. The last letter she said when she got one she would think "ok what now" and seemed anoyed (sp yoyo).
this time she seems like she is not sure what to think. I think she may want to but may think I am going to make more out of it that I plan to. which ever way it goes SHE IS talking to me SHE IS being nice to me. She has to have read it by now...Not going to presure her going to give it a day or two and keep a hight PMA

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That's a good idea, husband. Your W may need some time to think a little about what you wrote. I'd let it percolate a while with her.


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Years Married/Together: 17/18
Bomb: 6/15/07
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That was a BEAUTIFUL letter husband!! I hope you get a postive response. I mean come on what is not to love with a man like you!! She really needs to get it together before losing someone like you. : )

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Husband, great letter.

but can y'all clarify something for me?
Isn't this pressure for a Wayward spouse? All that heartfelt emotion, isn't that what they are trying to hide from?

I have similar feelings for my wife, but my dbing guidance says "back away". At this point, papers are filed and W is still seeing OM and I am not sending her romantic cards or notes.

My maintaining my distance is not really "working".

So what now?



M 43
S14 S13 D11 D7
Divorce final: Jan 2009
Making it up as I go....
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