Hey LWB,, Thinking about you. Hope you can make the best of this X mas for your self and your girls. Think about me tonight. Sleeeping out in the cold camper because SON wants to.... The things a parent does for their kids,,,,
Hugs...
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
trying, he is divorcing her. They are separated in the same house right now, and after Christmas he is moving out and getting an attorney. She is the one that asked for an open marriage and he laughed in her face. He has 'let her go' for now, so she is free to be an idiot, as Ohio_Mark says...
Journaling:
I am very tired. I hope this helps me sleep tonight. We ate pizza at my neighbors. H texted me and asked if he could come see the girls, I said fine. He came in, sheepishly, wondering if I had told my friend and her husband. Her husband is my H's very best friend and will be beyond disappointed when he finds out.
He said good night to the girls and left after awhile. I came home and put them to bed. Odd thing, D3 said she missed him and wanted to call him. She never ever says this. I told her we would send him a message in the morning. If she asked again, I was going to let her call. But I didn't want him to think I was doing it for any other reason than D3, especially since that never happens.
H did not pack anything and his work clothes are here. He'll be home at some point tonight. I am through fighting this 'kicking him out' fight. I can't win. Next week, when things start getting legal (I am calling Wednesday), then I'll fight again.
Well, I guess they celebrated Christmas last night. I came down at 3am (couldn't sleep), and sitting on the desk, tucked under his wallet was a man's silver bracelet. Yes, he came home after being with her.
Its supposed to be Christmas, the things are visible...fire going, kids watching a Christmas show, wrapping gifts, baking...but its not Christmas. Its empty and lonely.
lwb - I know how you feel. W is still wearing the ring she received from other man.
I hope that things get better after the holidays.. whatever that is for you.
I can't believe he came home after you told him not too. I guess I was a little lucky there.. we don't have keys to our house (I know.. strange) so I would just lock her out.
Anyway.. sucks that you are going through this with Xmas just 2 days away.
I'm sorry you're feeling this, holidays or not. I couldn't imagine the feeling. W and OM have not exchanged anything (400 miles apart, and they are, for the time being, "done"). There are plenty of other things though that keep trying to bring me down.
She doesn't look at me the same. She's not at all interested in what gifts I got for her. She usually tries to get some hints. She's not at all excited about getting my gifts. She asked for a list and I'm sure she's going to use it like a checklist rather than relying on her own judgement. She walks around moping and pissy.
My feeling at this point is that this is my Christmas. I am going to share my joy with those I love. If any of them don't want a piece of the "action", screw 'em.
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IWB - your right it does not feel like xmas - my H filed and moved out right away and it does not look good. He lives with OW and knowing that is really hard - but you are such a strong woman to live with him. I remember before H moved out watching him come and go - it was so painful knowing he was with OW and a part of me was relieved he left because it was torture. I can only imagine how painful that was to see bracelet from OW for him at xmas. I think he wanted you to see it. Cruel. But I just think all you guys who are still living with spouse when involved in A are so strong - you are making the ultimate sacrifice to save your family.
lwb - I know all about the gifts. It hurts a lot. My H hides them now because I told him I want no evidence of ow in my house. No gifts, no calls, nothing..
I also agree about the emptiness of this holiday season. I love Christmas - my very favorite time of year. But, you hit the nail on the head when you said it feels hollow.. It so does..
I try to remember that it's all about my baby right now. No one else matters. Just her..
IWB - forgot to add but when you have had enough and its your own sanity and happiness that it is also a strong thing to ask him to go - that is what Im learning from everyone here including you from your kind words you gave to me is knowing whats right at the right time for you. Im not one to give advice because me and my story are a mess and Im new - just thinking of you.
