Hah! And I had to read your post twice! I think this sounds great LWB. I would definitely recommend doing this. However I imagine that there are bound to be things you need to be cautious about (expectations, over-exuberance, pleasing H, etc.)
When my W came to a turning point (as brief as it was) I got wrapped right back up into things and let my guard down. The subsequent blow was devastating because I simply wanted everything to feel normal again. DB'ing has to continue even if you are out for an evening of fun.
I hope others can provide some tips on how to remain vigilant and yet keep your H interested and attracted during the night.
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WOW!! I would totally go!! This to me is HUGE. It's like he is asking you out on a date. Or at least wanting to spend time with you and include you in on something. When my husband and I had a turn around he started doing things like this. I was very taken back. Because after all he hated me. lol Or had hateful hurtful words. I was the fault of everything. But the beginning for him and his turn around was he started being nice and goofy again. Then he asked me out. For us it was we went out to dinner then out to have drinks.
I agree. Maybe pulling together with sick kids made him realize there is more to marriage than watching tv every together every night. Go and have fun. Dating your H is a good idea.
Sounds like fun! Dinner and casino! Did you decide what to wear? LOL Have you seen 'Jerry Maguire' when Renée Zellweger is asking her sister about what to wear for her and Tom Cruse's first 'sort of date'?
"Is it too much.. or humm... too casual..." I always feel like that when I go to 'sort of date'... even with myH after 7-year marriage. LOL Beauty
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Oh, cool beans, Lwb. I am so happy for you. What a great opportunity to have some fun and spend some quality time with the H. Make sure you remind him how wonderful and witty you really are.
okay, I misunderstood your e-mail. wow, dinner and a casino run? I'd wait a bit to respond, but I'd also probably agree to go. I really think pulling together might have been a good thing...maybe he is realizing what he might be missing out on.
or maybe he's like my h and simply wants to go to the casino and out to dinner and isn't thinking beyond that...isn't thinking that this might mean something to you. so tread cautiously all the same.
hope you have fun!!!! will be thinking about you and pulling for you, lwb.
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"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
Only you know your H. Like someone said do not get your hopes/expectations up and then you will not be disappointed. Have fun and show H what he is giving up - or running from for fear of trying to work it out. I really feel that more WAS's would like to come back but just do not know how - or how to ask...they are a confused sort and sometimes quitting looks a hell of a lot easier than trying to fix all the hurts/pain they caused us. I think what they fail to realize is by quitting they shift the burden onto the children...
Have a good time and try and listen to your heart a little too! Not all DB techniques work in all situations...sometimes our gut needs to be our guide too!
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