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Actually, this thread gave me an idea, since I was thinking no gift.

I will buy something and put it in the closet. If he gives me a gift (I doubt he will, since he couldn't even get me a mother's day CARD and last year before we were even S he was very begrudging with the cheapo little girl earrings he gave me), I will have something for him.

Otherwise, it can stay in the closet and I will return it and spend the money on myself!!

So, something token. If I am feeling friendly enough I might even give him something regardless of whether he gives me anything. I just would rather not do anything that makes me feel resentful in any way.

I thought about doing that, too. That's a good idea. Now, what to get the moron, er H.

My sitch is similar to those above in a lot of ways. WAW maybe MLC, very much does not want to try, etc...

Anyhow, I took our 5D shopping for wife. I thought it was the right thing to do. Need to remember it is not from you it is from the children to their other parent. Ended up spending around $30. Simple stuff, earrings(5D picked out, I don't care for them), lotion, nail polish, silly stuff...If you are doing this for your kids sake then you have your mind in the right place. I do not expect anything from my wife. I had planned to put something special in closet for her, just in case. But, I'd probably be wasting money. So, I am going to get a picture with 5D and Santa framed and label it from Jesus to give to wife.

That said, if I am feeling friendly and comfortable enough, I might give him somehting regardless of whether he gives me anything, which he won't.

My H will not be getting anything from me. The kids will buy him something from their allowance money.

I feel my H would take it as pursuing, so I don't.

Good question. I already bought something for my W. It is a digital picture frame which goes well with the digital camera I got for her last year. She enjoys taking pictures all the time and has actually framed some of them so I think it is a nice gift that is not intimate.

Personally, it doesn't matter if she gets anything for me. Ever since I could earn money, I found that I enjoy giving gifts more than I receive. I am not saying I don't like to receive because I do but that is not my motivation.

I can recommend getting a gift for your H as if he was simply a friend. A friend gift is usually very casual and should not be perceived as pursuing.

Ny son giving H a gift token for the computer game shop. They will more than likely choose the game together and enjoy playing it together. Everyone happy.

Oh, I am also gonna put a nice school photo in a frame for him.

I dunno, persuing or not I feel it is important to give a gift. H does a lot for son.Son would feel bad turning up at his dads home on Christmas afternoon with no gift. Christmas is about giving not recieving. I sincerely hope that H does not buy me a gift.

Hell, I even give the milkman a gift .....

Nutty Chick.

Ny son giving H a gift token for the computer game shop. They will more than likely choose the game together and enjoy playing it together. Everyone happy.

Oh, I am also gonna put a nice school photo in a frame for him.

I dunno, persuing or not I feel it is important to give a gift. H does a lot for son.Son would feel bad turning up at his dads home on Christmas afternoon with no gift. Christmas is about giving not recieving. I sincerely hope that H does not buy me a gift.

Hell, I even give the milkman a gift .....

Nutty Chick.

My H feels that we should exchange gifts, so I will be wandering the stores looking for something that says "I like you, but not too much".

Ingrid, that one cracked me up.