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Well I've locked up another thread.

This is starting to become a habit.

Maybe third times the charm though.


Nothing new to report though. Zero contact today...

Still nothing from her today.

I thought that things had went so well Monday night. I hope that I didn't scare her away.

I know, Time and space...

Here's a link to what went on Monday Night.

Anyone have any insight into why she would suddenly cut me off? I haven't tried contacting her since I don't want to push, but maybe I should?

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I'd contact her just to be friendly - Maybe she has something going on and she is busy, or she is waiting for you?

My W hasn't freaked out when I contact her for a couple of months. I'd just see what happens.

Hiya b,

Caught up on your posts. The monday night I would say went well. And anyone here who knows me knows that I would say flirt away! The reason I say this is: I think you should flirt to show her that you have an interest in her. I know this is a no-brainer, but flirt as if she were a new love in your life, only she is the one you really love and you know that. I flirted when I had no expectations of my H returning anything, I just did it anyway. I would flirt and then change the subject or walk out of the room. This will get them thinking.

Also, I would say wait for her to call you or respond. She is probably mulling over and over in her mind that fact that a) you were cute and flirty with her monday night b)you are doing nice things for her and why? c) and your boudoir was devoid of her stuff. This has seriously got her thinking, trust me on this one. Women think too much...LOL.

If in a few more days, she still doesn't call, I would say give her a light call and see if she would go out to lunch with you or drinks. Test it out and monitor.

You can do this, be strong and brave, b.

I was toying with calling her tonight since I sold her downhill skis that she never used and won't use now that she's got a snowboard. I know that she could use the money for Christmas shopping since she's flat broke. After reading PMs post though, I think that I'll wait. I'm booked solid this weekend until Sunday night so I don't know when I would be able to give it to her anyhow.

If I don't hear from her before hand, I'll call her Sunday night and see if she wants to do drinks one night after work this coming week. We haven't done that yet, so that would be a change.

I figured that I probably threw her for a pretty good loop on the bedroom thing. Like I said, she thought that I was still sleeping on the couch. I think that I confuse the hell out of her because she expects the old me but keeps running into the new me.

Thanks for the encouragement. I appreciate it.

B

Hey B...she's probably a little spooked. I'm sure things have been feeling really comfortable with you between your date on Friday and Monday. She's probably just pulling back a bit.

I don't think you should be afraid to call her. She might be at the point where she is looking for you to make a move. I'm still thinking about that comment about "are you trying to win her back". I don't want to lead you in the wrong direction here...but I don't think you'd hurt anything by just calling to see how she's doing.

You're doing really well though...J~

Argh... So confused...

I usually get a sense of what to do and go with it, but I'm not this time. I'll pray on it tonight and see if anything comes to me. I'm leaning towards an email tomorrow. We'll see I guess.

It's just quite a shock to the system since things seemed like they had been going so well. There I go with expectations again...

B,

Ya don't expect anything in return. No email back no call back, etc. But after the comment and the "date," I would toss it out there and monitor. Don't over push things, see how she is doing, if she seems cold, leave it at that. If she seems upbeat and excited to talk to you, then toss out the invite for drinks. Now I don't know if you also drink coffee, but a coffee date is great. It always her to meet you there, don't pick her up. Don't talk about the relationship, but a cup of coffee can last 5 minutes, or an hour or so. But it leaves her an out, see how she responds. Keep the journal on responses from her. Then you will know what works and what doesn't. If contacting her doesn't go well, you prepared for the worst and so be it, if it goes well great, but don't get the hopes up. Just be you and relax.