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micoms,
I am slow at this. Are you saying finished with M, then why is he getting nicer????? I have to somehow get away from him and this business. We can't be just goodie friends, want to go dark but can't with all problems here.
Now to real life, I breed bernese mountain dogs, big easy going draft dogs. what kind if food are you feeding? Might try Natural Choice with rice and Lamb, will have to purch. in pet feed store. bit pricie but you feed much less. what are you cleaning ears out with? big problem with these dogs & ears is trying to dry out the ear cannal.

micoms, thanks for posting back

I forgot a part i wanted to say,

I look back on the man I became the last year and I don't like him. He checked your calls on your phone, checked your purse etc. That man was not the real me and I despise him.

I also added your thoughts.

I clean her ears with ear cleaning solution from VET Solutions, our Vet recommended it, can't find it at stores we buy it at Vets.We feed her duck and potatoe food, from Natural Balance. It is 100%duck and potatoe. It is pricey also $44 for 30lbs.

I'm not saying see a C to finish off your M, they may be able to help you cope with the sitch. Help you become a better person. Only you can decide when you have had enough.

Does he ever call you outside of the buisness? If so let it go to voice mail, call him back an hour or two later. He'll probably want to know where you were, just say out with a friend. I't will make him wonder.

What type of buisness?

Talked to my boss today, asked me for info on how to fix a particular piece of equipment, how and where to get materials.I'm kind of a regional expert on some manufacturers equipment. The omly one in the Tri-state area on some (old stuff). Have turned down feild engineers job in the past, but if D goes thru may reconsider. Lots of last minute travel though. I'd have an office in another city but wouldn't have to move, could work from present location.

microms,
thank you for being there, Again to help me. Lord I am so messed up. LOL OK, since only U * I are on this post my goofs are off the radar of most. LOl your dog # 1, will check on ear stuff to help. Trust me, will come up with stuff better than vet,most of time.
job follow your heart not your brain., hear me, follow your heart,rest will work out.
Microms, i best leave. lol, friend took me out....and rest is history, lol. later & thanks. grid

microms,
thank you for being there, Again to help me. Lord I am so messed up. LOL OK, since only U * I are on this post my goofs are off the radar of most. LOl your dog # 1, will check on ear stuff to help. Trust me, will come up with stuff better than vet,most of time.
job follow your heart not your brain., hear me, follow your heart,rest will work out.
Microms, i best leave. lol, friend took me out....and rest is history, lol. later & thanks. grid

micoms,
good luck this weekend and remember, be good to yourself.
grid

Thanks for the good luck, I don't expect what I will say will change her mind, I just hope it makes her think about us.

Don't worry about your mistakes we all backslide, remember two steps forward only one step backwards.


Mike

Just got home from S26's house watched football game, UC (my school) vs WVA. Broke down and called W, I know should have stayed dark, made her call first. Had a pleasant convo with her, no R talk. Talked for an hour. We usually have Thanksgiving at our house, the kids, her sister and husband & her Aunt and Uncle come over. I do the turkey, stuffing & gravy W did mashed taters, GB casserole and sweet taters. I couldn't do it because of surgery. D24 is doing it, I have to go to her house and show her what to do.

Asked W if she'd be there, yes. Asked her about work, she wants to find a job with Mon to Fri. If she would have done that 2yrs ago we might not be in this mess! Told her I'd like to talk to her in person. I'm not going to say what I was thinking. She's coming to house Sun to get turkey (it's in our freezer) and we'll talk. Later in convo asked about how she'd feel about going out to with me dinner one night , she said yes.

I'm going to wear the clothes that fit me well, look sharp (down to 209lbs). Hopefully T-day with family and my new slimmer self will give her reason to think.

Mike

W just left house, came over with D24 & GS, so I didn't get to tell her some of the things I wanted to say. We did talk about her work, my rehab, how she's been etc. I was in the shower when they came in. GS was wild! Told her she looked great, she denied, told her she most certainly did. That might be a problem of hers, her self esteem.

They went to leave after staying about 2 hrs. I walked her out with GS, D was getting turkey. Put GS in car seat. Asked for hug, she gave me one. as I leaned in thought about a peck on the lips, thought better about it, turned my head to go for hug. She kissed me on the cheek. Trying not to see to much in that, but damn it felt good. Dog got out she didn't want to go back in house. I'm not allowed to handle dog so she had to get her to house. As she walked by stuck out my arm at her waist and slid it across her belly as she walked by. She stopped and gave me another hug.

Going to S26's house to watch Bengals play asked her if she wanted to come, she looked depressed and said she wasn't invited. I said I'm sure he'd love to see you. Called S, told him to call her and ask her over, she is going. While she was hear she looked sad and depressed. Looked better when leaving.

Gotta go.
Mike

Micoms,
Sounds positive, very positive. Don't push and remember we all have to stay focused on rules of DR and GAL. This goes for myself as I have back slide last day or two. Please give W lots of smiles and eye contact that says , you are looking very nice and respect you. We both have to be careful not to quickly push our selve on our S.
I am planning to build house which DH & I had been dreaming of. Our business is run out of our home. Trying to decide if I should ask H if he like to have input on house. I am afraid if I ignore him he will then think I have moved on without him. H will then feel no chance to go back to R. Then again if I ask for his input fear he will think I am trying to trap him. Since DR he does seem to be warming up to me. What sort of feedback are you getting from your DR work?
have to run and change water in fish tank. Big mess, new fish and dog stepped on bag on way home. Of course broke. ROFL, here I am flying down road with 5 fish in a bag, holding bag in air and praying my hand will not cramp to point I drop open bag.
keep posting micoms.