Divorcebusting.com Forums Open Forums Infidelity/Extramarital Affairs/Jealousy Just need some support.

So, do people's Rs ever recover from this type of sitch? It seems to me that's really it, game over. Looking at the letter again it I think it's an invitation for them to go to a wedding.

Some people just seem to feel the need to jump from one R to the next, never dealing with her issues. Perhaps my W is one of them (that's if it wasn't an affair to begin with). It's a joke her talking about the fantasy of wanting to live alone to lead a single life - anything to get away.

The whole sorry mess makes me feel completely demoralized.

I would like to ask for some advice. Should I contact her about various D related activities but be very direct about what I want (I am usually polite and chatty, so this would be a bit of a 180 for me) - or - should I just stop all contact for a while and simply ignore her (which is also very tempting)?

Max

Also, if I have questions, should I approach her? I'm fairly certain she would point blank refuse to engage in any discussion about what's been going on. Her point of view seems to be our relationship(s) are now private and off limits. Not that she was ever really forthcoming about anything while we were separated (but before the "it's really over" speech) or after the bomb.

"It is important that you stop believing that your happiness is dependent on the love and acceptance of your wife. It is not."

Max...

Ohio Mark is on point here brother. One of the hardest things I have had to do is figure out what next when it involves my life with/without my W. I heavily relied on her when it came to our kids and now I cannot do that, I have to pull up my pants and get busy figuring this sh** out. Father time is the enemy right now because we all want to work this out now or reset the clock to before the bomb and try to divert the disaster. However, time and distance is what will ultimately restore our sanity.

We are here for you brother and know that we are all going through it or have come out of it and are willing to help others in a like minded predicament.

Hummm, well just had a close encounter with the gruesome twosome whilst doing my Christmas shopping. Gave me a bit of a shock. I walked out of the changing rooms in a department store and heard my W's voice right beside me. There they were, out shopping for clothes, a nicely settled couple.

I believe they didn't see me as I shot straight past them as fast as possible. I'm not quite ready for my first face-to-face encounter with them. Afterwards I did think that it could have been fun though. I think they still don't know that I know about them.

Let the weird days continue. Not quite as upset as I thought I'd be though.

Max