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No rejected Nomo...remember we are all hoping to catch lots of fish...not one to take home and mount on the wall.

Oops that sounds kinds dirty!

YES! That sounds right (I did have about 6 of them, memory's fuzzy). Thank you.

Heehee, You said "mount."

Somebody hit CVA with the water hose.

Oh thank goodness. I thought we were finished WAW, and I was crushed. By the way, in my new found second chance, I've discovered I like dirty talk. A lot.

Damn, somebody hit me with a water hose.

LOL!!!!!!!

Man I love your sense of humor, Heim! I'll bet women absolutely LOVE IT!

Now, if I was a woman...

You know, a fortune teller told me that I'll be mysteriously finding myself in Boston sometime in the near future...

GD

(Oh yeah, and as of 10:00 a.m. MDT today I'm officially D'd and single now, so be gentle, ladies -- there's enough of me to go around!)

Not to just drop into your thread guys, but I just have to say that you all bring a smile to my face when I do happen to pop in to catch up on your banter.

WAW
Wow, look what has started over here!

Nomo, down big boy! She's mine! 4 dates, see, I was right!


Now H, I resemble that remark!

C

Journaling

Had D4 this weekend. Had a lot of fun picking out tins for the Xmas cookies we are making as gifts. Not much moolah this year so we are being creative. D4 can't wait to use the cookie cutters and decorate with colored sugar.

Hasbend has turned completely cold hearted. Refuses to even converse about anything except money and our child. Continuing to try and continue controlling me by the only two things we have left. He has been very manipulative with our daughter as of late. Springing last minute plans he has for her on me when she is with me. For example his friends childrens birthday parties, holiday gatherings and other family events he forgot about. Of course I am not allowed to bring her to the childrens parties because he "got those friends in the separation". Makes me want to puke. These are people I have known for 9 years. Now I can't be social with them? Sure you all have been done some variation of this path and frankly its immature and its hurtful.

Also, he refuses to call my home "Mommy's house" he continues to call it "Grampa's house". In all reality itis my Dad's duplex, but I am the one living there!

My 30th birthday is rapidly approaching and I think my gift to myself with be filing the petition for divorce.

The hasbend has made no efforts whatsoever to work on the marriage and frankly I think 2008 should be a year of change.

My 2 Cents for today. Usually I am good for some upbeat banter but today I am feeling blahhhhh.

Thanks for stopping by my thread, waw. I'm happy with things being fairly amicable at this point (though I'm sure she hates me quite a bit right now) -- hopefully it will lend to some quality coparenting down the road as the kids grow up.

And for you and your sitch...



People will understand the money sitch, and I'm sure D4 will love making the cookies much more than buying gifts. Great for the character and Xmas spirit too! My kids and I made Halloween cookies this year, and had a blast (though having the two of them battling to do everything was a bit trying at times)!



Unfortunately, I'm not surprised, given the pattern I've seen from him. I'm sorry that his head has yet to find the exit from his anus, but hopefully it will someday before he suffocates. It just amazes me that our spouses could make these decisions to not work on the M, not better themselves, etc, and be okay with doing so. For me, it is simply unconsciounable.



I actually just did -- what bs! And, like you said, so immature. It is ridiculous to split friends like that. Friends should be able to do what they want to do, see who they want to see, etc -- not do what WE want them to do and see who WE want them to see.



A little bit, sadly, but not that bad. It does suck though.



I have no doubt that he does this to directly affect you and your emotions. Just being a jerk still because he still hasn't "gotten it." He still hasn't looked inward to see the things that he needs to work on (such as this). I'm sorry that your D4 has to be placed in the middle of this. Just remember to do your best to take the high road and let such comments roll of your back. Don't give him the satisfaction of knowing it gets to you, and you'll eventually take the wind out of his sails. Just enjoy your picnic. It'll make you feel better in the long run, too.



Well, when it comes -- happy birthday! Isn't 30 the new 20?

As far as filing for the D, just make sure that you are ready to throw in the towel and can live with the potential outcome. I can see your H as the type of person who might actually wake up a little while following the filing, but I can also see him being to stubborn and prideful to do so. Your H does remind me of the old me quite a bit (sadly), and that is why I still hold out a sliver of hope for him.



Amen, waw. Amen.

Take care of yourself -- got any snow over in Boston? We've got a nice little layer right now and it is currently snowing, so... Woo Hoo!

GD

I believe spouses that stay in this misery actually enjoy misery, that is where they are comfortable, like my spouse i think she does not know how to be loved and that i was the first person who trully loved her and she ran from it. just a thought maybe some similarities there