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Hey...RHW, where are you? taking a break from chasing 3 kids? Wait until all the sports start!

Hope things are good. No more down days, the B&B is coming up.


You lucky SOBs. The rest of us are jealous of you guys.

I'm here, there's just not much to report. I'm still a bit suspicious about recent activities on H's part (which are still ongoing), but am trying to get it through my head that it's all explainable and I need to just let it go. 18 days to go!

S7 is in baseball every year, but that doesn't start until the spring, but this year, he is going to try basketball & that starts in Dec or Jan. Then he wants to also do soccer this spring as well.

S3 still has about a year before we can start getting him involved in anything.

Hey all. Feeling a bit better, mentally and physically. Boys are doing well. Got a really *GOOD* email from H the other night. He is so excited to get home. He said he's a bit nervous too, but thinks that's just to do w/ the boys because he said he feels very "secure" about us. I, too, think that S3 may have some issues when H gets home. He's at that age where he doesn't really understand his feelings or how to express them. He knows dad is gone and he's angry and he will probably be kind of angry at H when he gets home for being gone. Or, we could be totally wrong -- it seems that every time we worry about how the boys are going to react to something, they just breeze right through.

This should be a really good Christmas for us! I think back to last Christmas and the bomb had not been dropped yet, but I imagine it wasn't as happy as this one will be

I'm thinking about getting H a new wedding ring. I don't think I'll give it to him for Christmas; I think I'll put it on the pillow at the B&B while we are there while he's home. That will be our one weekend that we'll have all to ourselves while he's home

I think it's finally sinking in that he will be home in less than 2 weeks! I cannot believe it! It's going to be so nice to actually have him sleeping w/ me in our bed instead of getting kicked in the head by a 3 year old or a 7 year old !!

In that same email, he acknowledged that he hasn't been very good about sending me letters or cards, etc. the way I have been w/ him. I sent him millions of cards at first and obviously slowed down after I bought just about every card they have at Walgreen's, but I still send him cards all the time, pics of the boys and his magazines that we get in the mail. I guess it just feels good knowing that *HE* knows that he could have been better about it. Whether he actually does anything about it doesn't matter that much, I guess it's just that he acknowledged it that's ok for me.

I can't believe that I have been w/o him for 7 months now. I think it will be such a relief when he is finally home for good in May -- he also acknowledged in the email how much I have been taking care of -- the boys, the house, everything and says he can't wait to take care of me and help out. Wow, how nice does that sound!!??

That sounds like a very special way to do it.



Sounds awesome.

Great PMA, keep up the good work. I know your excitement must be really building.

WTG, RHW! You must be getting really excited!

It just occurred to me why I may be having a lot of "down moments" lately -- My way of doing things is just "do what I gotta do" and that's what I've been doing for the last 7 months, not only taking care of the boys, the house, everything, along w/ my surgery, etc. b/c I had no other choice -- I also know that I just tend to push everything down or to the back of my mind b/c it doesn't make any sense to get all upset about stuff or worry about stuff when there's nothing I can really do about it. ANYWAY, I'm thinking maybe everything is starting to bubble to the surface since H is coming home and I just may get a break from all of this!!! Makes a lot of sense to me, I think.

I think his coming back is rushing all these feelings, one after the other, suspicion, happiness, waryness, etc etc., I agree.

Just remember to take it nice and easy, to enjoy every moment even if it isn't exactly how you'd picture it.

2wks, that's awesome!

Hi RHW,

I am glad about your good news.
I believe that sometimes we go through a process of rocking bottom just to go up then.

Wish you the best.

Hey Red,

Haven't been over here in a while. What are we down too...7 or 8 days now? It's been really nice watching your story unfold. I've got so much respect for you and what all you have gone through, not only physically, but emotionally as well. And through it all; you've managed to build on your marriage, maintain a household, work, and be a mother to those 3 boys...WOW! Girl, please step up on stage and take a bow...you're one tough red head

Best wishes for the upcoming month together and for your marriage in general from Mr & Miss IC

- IC

Thanks to the IC's

Well, just still sitting here in limbo mode. H comes home on Saturday and the countdown is truly on now !! We are all just so excited.

Took a trip w/ the boys down to San Antonio this past weekend to see H's family. That was nice (although I hate the 3 1/2 hr drive) and also passed the final weekend we needed to get through. I figured it wouldn't matter if I stayed home & tried to clean the house all weekend as #1 w/ the 3 boys, that wouldn't happen anyway and #2 even if I did get it in tip top shape, it would NOT stay that way all week. I'll just run around Friday night & Saturday a.m. getting everything ready.

All is still well w/ our M. I was going to get H a new wedding ring for Christmas, however, I had pointed out a ring that I would like -- not a new wedding ring or anything, it's actually just a ring that has been duplicated from this book series I have read -- I don't know if anyone is familiar w/ the "Outlander" series, however, the ring is a replica of what the guy main character made for the lady. ANYWAY, H says to me that he would like to wait to do that until we renew our vows. I had asked him about us doing this awhile back and then just wasn't going to bring it up again, but he brought it up so I guess not only is he still for doing this, but we are both going to get new rings when we do that.