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Hi gl-
IMO, if you feel comfortable enough, you should tell your H thank you for the gift. Sending him a thank you note is nice but could be considered impersonal. You want to act AS IF...as if what he does doesn't bother you. I just think that sending him a thank you note would send a message that you don't want to send...if you know what I mean.

I wish you a much happier new year!

<3
Upside

Have new problem.
from what I am reading S should not be reading DR with you.

My H ask me for name of Michele's book, told him truth and gave him title, DR

Don't want him to read the book and then feel I am doing things behind his back. What should I do? How about if I get him a different book to read?
H does not live with me, so if he were reading DR I wouldn't even be there to discuss or answer questions he might have.
anyone?

Have new problem.
from what I am reading S should not be reading DR with you.

My H ask me for name of Michele's book, told him truth and gave him title, DR

Don't want him to read the book and then feel I am doing things behind his back. What should I do? How about if I get him a different book to read?
H does not live with me, so if he were reading DR I wouldn't even be there to discuss or answer questions he might have.
anyone?

Have new problem.
from what I am reading S should not be reading DR with you.

My H ask me for name of Michele's book, told him truth and gave him title, DR

Don't want him to read the book and then feel I am doing things behind his back. What should I do? How about if I get him a different book to read?
H does not live with me, so if he were reading DR I wouldn't even be there to discuss or answer questions he might have.
anyone?

How likely do you think he is to buy the book and read it...I know H bought books and NEVER read them...and reading a R book would be way out there for most men...

I would say, don't worry about...really nothing you can do about it now...if he asks you again what the title is try and dodge an answer...maybe say I can think of it exactly right now...I will get back with you on that...

Take care...Lin

imLin,
Nope, he is after the book! D__ my luck. Maybe I should suggest he pick up Michele's latest book or how about (unable remember author @ moment)book titled: "Divorce is not the answer"
Wonder what he would do with that one?
At those times when H does ask me about the R books I am reading and asks for titles do you think it is a good idea to tell him or back away and say get back to him? H really is interested in Michele's work, input. Guess when the C I was sent to by medical insurance co. validated her work and was impressed, well must have flipped a switch in H's brain. Michele's work is about saving M of which two people ideally are involved, question where or when should WAH start becoming involved in Michele's guidance?

thanked H on telephone for gift. A while later even caught myself going to blow up and remembered DBing. Quite a surprise how that just jumped out of my brain at me!!!

After much thought and other poster's input. have desided since H has given me a couple gifts for which I have given him nothing, will have a gift for him on his birthday which is in about a month. This I believe will be a total surprise to him and since it is for his Harley bike I know he will love and not return behind my back. This is Good.