I told her - not much reaction. She said she was not planning on going to the party (we had plans, duh). She said it might be awkward (I agreed) and asked if I was ready to deal with that awkwardness. I said we/I were/was not planning on that during Christmas, but I was just letting her know. I said you don't need to tell me now, and she said she would think about it.
It kinda made me sad. It really feels like it's all over and we are all just waiting for her to deliver the news.
She was a little responsive texting about snow and school today.
When I told her last night (BIL lost job) she hesitated and then asked if we were still going and exchanging gifts... I was like, uh, yeah. There was no - too bad, are they OK, what happened, etc. Perhaps a bit inwardly focused?