I am back I kept it real light and just visited like there isn't anything wrong. He even held the door open..(Whats with that) maybe she is installing manners!!!HaHAha...He was very pleasant gave me a hug and a small kiss when he left. It is so strange where is he coming from...Is it because he has the freedom to do what he wants?
I have no idea but I have become alot stronger because I wouldn't be able to handle this last year. It is a mazing how much stronger and wiser we have become.
Penny, Sounds good to me. I can guarantee when he left you were on his mind. I know there were seeds of doubt in his mind. You were so pleasant and he was wondering "now, why was I left her?" If you had been all cranky and such he would have said "I know why I left her." You showed him your good side, you'll be on his mind.
Originally Posted By: PennyMB
He was very pleasant gave me a hug and a small kiss when he left. It is so strange where is he coming from...Is it because he has the freedom to do what he wants?
Yes, he is seeing detachment in you. He has seen the cage door open and may be thinking "Wow, she really is letting go? Is that what I really want?"
Penny, you did a great job. With the detachment, you have shown him that you are a strong desirable woman. I could certainly take lessons from you! The detachment is also very good for you whether he comes back or not.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Boy it is tough but I don't have that horrible gut feeling and the anxiety that used to come with it. It is more relaxed where before I would have been climbing the walls. This detaching is tough on a person where I have a hard time is at night at home alone since the boys went back to school. So out comes the exercise stuff and goals to loose the last of the weight. I think being a nervous wreck before made the weight fall off....
You are extremely strong too. We have come a long ways since the very beginning. Thanks for the support...You are a wonderful person.
I am the same way...I think that I have it under control and then something triggers something and I loose it. The roller coaster ride that he is on almost drives you crazy. I have learned that I can not do anything about it and to take a deep breath and not let it oover take me anymore.
How are you doing to day Mat? How did the visit to the lawyer go?
Hi Penny. Lawyer visit was ok. Just went over some paperwork from H's lawyer. Spent time "fixing" some things that only benefited H (like I was responsible for all repairs on the house and if D17 doesn't use the college money we have already saved, H would get it all). Silly thing that upset me the most was the visitation schedule. It has the standard "every other weekend", etc. That doesn't work for H's schedule. I tried to talk to him about it yesterday morning and he didn't get my point (I was saying it wasn't realistic for him, but he said it didn't matter). Why did that upset me so?????
Do you have something fun planned for the weekend?
How did you know? It must be that time of being frustrated when the roller coaster ride keeps going. I would like to get off and try another ride sometime. Maybe with out some many ups and downs.
