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That works!! I wish it was that easy. Although.. they do have a Santa thing at their school.

My family has always done Xmas eve, so I get them on Xmas eve. Hers always does Xmas day, so they will be with her.

We haven't worked out the details (and I'm sure she's not thought it through) but we'll go to my folks place on Xmas eve. Maybe we'll open our presents when we get back. I'd like to do Xmas morning with them, but I have a feeling she'll make a deal out of it.

Unless it was like Thanksgiving and she's out boozing it up till 6 in the AM. Then I won't hear from her till noon.

Luckily, I've had several offers for Xmas day. I'll be in a good place no matter what.

Jar you continue to amaze me with your resolve! You are one of the best DBers I've ever seen!

I agree yoyo!!

Thanks guys.. not sure it's DB'ing though. I know the mantras are GAL and detach.. I think those are coming quite a bit easier.

I've just made up my mind to no longer be her doormat.

So.. she called on the way back from dinner (dinner was a bust by the way.. all of the Pizza Huts are closing around here) and she immediately attacked. "Oh.. now you answer your phone.. what's up with not answering and ignoring me"

I told her my phone was on vibrate (call the house phone goof!!) and I didn't have it on me. Seemed to placate her.

I immediately handed the phone to the girls.. she talked to D's and when the phone made it back to me, I was distracted by the girls. She hastily said she had to go. I said "OK.. bye" and hung up.

Tomorrow morning will be interesting when I drop D's off. She likes to stir things up then.

I'll just walk out.. no time for the drama anymore.

So.. dropped D's off this morning. Acted as if and was in a good mood actually.

W talked about the D's and reminded me about D5's Dr appt this afternoon. Trust me.. I know. Your BF's kid possibly gave her something.

She's still acting like nothing is going on.

She doesn't realize that the train is leaving the station.

Keep on keepin' on Jar... Just like you tell me, continue to detach and focus on you and the girls.

Your W will wake up one day... and when she does, she better hope and pray that you havent moved on.

So W just called... her back is hurting again. She's taking off work again.

We talked about the D's. About Xmas, About my work trip (she asked if it was the "tropical trip".. wish I could lie, but I didn't), About seeing Santa (I told her I was fine with seeing Santa individually.. one for daddy and one for mommy), about Xmas time with the girls.

She decided that she wants to do Santa together.. that's fine. She said this weekend (which is her weekend) and I said that's fine as long as it's Sunday. She asked what I was doing this weekend "Hanging out with friends." She: "During the day?" Me: "Yeah" Long pause... She: "Girlfriends?" Me: "Does it matter?".. I quickly changed the subject. Said Sunday would be fine.

Then she got a call and hung up on me while trying to figure out call waiting. I'm sure it was her BF.

I wanted to let it roll, but we needed to hash those things out. She still calls me "dear" and "Hon". Not sure why.

Jar... she's trying to keep you within reach. Remember the letter you wrote her, she's trying to get back within your guard.

Ya know... Im curious how she might react if she saw you with another woman (not recommending that but I would love to see how she would react).

She sounds so insecure, hmmmmm wonder why?

Jar,

Ummmm....who's being the needy one now? It certainly isn't you. Incredible attitude, Jar!

jh...

She is scared that you really do have another woman and how she will take it.

None of her business at this point.

I would keep your distance on sunday, pleasant, but no flirting got it!

tal