I agree, you are an amazing example to your daughters. you have worked hard to save your marriage, you have done an incredible job there, but you are also showing them a strong woman who isn't going to lay down like a doormat in the process.
hope you had fun with chutes and ladders. personally would have gone the candyland route...easy to "cheat them along" if necessary. I don't know why, but when we play chutes and ladders, its a game that just won't ever end. lol.
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
LWB, Tremendous! Wow! Someone give this woman a PhD in DB! You are wearing that Ms. DivorceBusting crown with honor. I'm astounded that he thought you were just going to go like you were as long as he needed (ignoring you, continuing contact, etc, with OW) because you said you were waiting for him to decide.
Things will get real curious when OW is served! Their world is crumbling.
Originally Posted By: lwb
There is a difference between separating and 'getting space', and separating because there is someone else. I am not willing to separate because there is someone else.
I 100% agree with this and in fact told my H the same thing. He didn't like it much.
But after all of that, you're still carrying on. God bless you! Playing Chutes & Ladders with your D (that is a game that can go on forever).
see, joie, my kids take all the cherries from hi-ho cheerio and play with them, but never in the game, so I can never find them when I am looking for them for the game. the irony is, somehow or other I am constantly stepping on them.
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
Lady, I need some of your amazing power to rub off on me. I know you're hurting too, but the way you handle things is just....amazing.
Some of the things your H said to you is what I fear in a confrontation with my H. There are moments when I feel like I'm ready to let go and just say.....go if you want to. But, I know he'd do what yours did and turn it around to make it seem like I don't want him here anyway.....making it easy for him to justify his actions to everyone else. As much as this hurts, I refuse (at this time) to give that to him. He stepped away from our M and our family. He needs to make that big step.
I'm glad you're able to do things with your D's. We got hit with snow this weekend, so D3 and I did beading. That was fun. I also got her out to a playland at our community center after everything was cleared up.
I'm thinking of you! ((((((LWB))))))
SueS
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ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
You did great... but you don't need me to tell you that. I am sad for you though.. as strong as you are, its still very sad that it has come to this..
oh btw.. how long did he think you were going to wait!!! until he was damn good and ready?? How fair is that?? Again incredibly selfish, and the girls will be hurt, but it will be at his hand, not yours.
Im sure it was good to get it off your chest, but it doesn't make it any easier..
be well, and I'll be thinking of you.
(((hugs))
tal
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Lwb, you continue to astound and amaze me. It also makes me question the sanity of your H -- he knows he's screwing up a good thing with a fantastic woman, and yet he's still doing it. Madness.
(((((((((((Lwb))))))))))))))
You are so strong and that is what your girls need so much. Bless you.
It seems like everyones R is just coming to a head right now.
You are doing a stellar job. Sounds like your H was just going to keep riding the surf, having the best of both worlds as long as he could. Why make a decision when he didn't have to.
Good job drawing those lines! I'm with NoCodes. Madness.
Woo Hoo for all those classice games! Life may not be perfect, but it is still good.
Me29 H33 D9 months S2 S9(previous R) Sep 8-19-07 I file 11-5-07 H home (Retro) 2-15-08 "Today is the tomorrow of yesterday." -- S9