Confusion is so true. I said something last night about us not shopping together this year. He has a boat-load full of apartment stuff in his car and I'm tired of pretending.
This afternoon when the kids were gone he said we'd start shopping Tuesday evening.
I'm not planning on taking him with me to my office Christmas party Friday night. It's at a very posh country club in our area and he looks like such a disaster with his 3 day beard, and his MLC fashion. I am just not in the mood. And, I'm terrified he'd get there and start drinking and humiliate me. No way. I don't know how I'll handle it if he mentions it, but I could just be as blunt as him and tell him he's not attractive to me and I feel nothing for him.
What do you think?
Hugs, Sun
"Tell me what you plan to do with your one wild and precious life." Mary Oliver
Sun, Do your shopping when you have the time. If you don't feel like shopping w/him, don't do it. The stress of the holidays, his mlc and your foot are way too much for you to deal w/while shopping.
Now, about the Christmas party, does he know about it? If he doesn't, just go. If he asks where you are going, say out w/some friends from the office and leave it at that. I know that I wouldn't want him going w/me, knowing that he could go off the deep end w/the drinking and make an @ss of himself. This is your time to enjoy w/your co-workers and you don't need the mlc drama there.
Go and enjoy yourself and leave the brat at home.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
That is my big problem. He knows about the party. What to do? Before he started up the "leaving" again he was going. We aren't going with him next weekend to his guard weekend and Christmas celebration. He's even getting a promotion that weekend and his family isn't going. So, why should he go to my party? I hate this mess!
"Tell me what you plan to do with your one wild and precious life." Mary Oliver
Sun, You still have 4 days until the party. Let's hope and pray that something comes along and he opts to do something totally different.
I will say an extra prayer that will give him food for thought and go elsewhere Friday night.
Did you call the doctor?
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
H came home from work an hour late (this has become his norm the past week), went into the bedroom, took a shower, kept his phone close by him, didn't eat dinner, read some, watched some football and went to bed.
He stepped out the bedroom door once and didn't even bother to speak to S23 or his gf.
He is so strange.
I have no idea what that was all about.
No, I didn't call the doctor today. I've been working on my final exam for tomorrow night. I'm going to call in the morning.
I'll be glad when this class is over. It has been a read dud.
Nite, Sun
"Tell me what you plan to do with your one wild and precious life." Mary Oliver
Sun, Do not worry. Your h is acting out in the typical fashion. Just let him be. He's fighting the growing up period of a teenager.
Good luck on the exam this evening. I'm sure you'll "ace" it.
Take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
