Got ya there.. this was the first Thanksgiving in 5 years I wasn't at the in-laws. Same with Xmas. Can't stand the jewelry commercials.. can't stand the Xmas "family" movies. Every thing I see now has a jaded "divorced" view.
My C called it the round of "firsts". Get through these, and hopefully things get better.
Yeah I hate those also, It makes me depressed. I to see those in the “jaded divorce view”. I usually change the channel so I do not have to see it.
Originally Posted By: jarhead
How is your friend and family sitch.. last I posted, they weren't able to come around. Has that changed? This time is VERY important for that.
Maybe use your "shell breaking" to make some new friends you can share the holidays with.
Well family sitch still the same, no visitors, just phone calls asking how I’m doing. My cousin came over last week and hung out for a night that was great. A few of my friends come over every once in a while. I did hang out with the W best friend last night; she came over a watched a movie. She said that I need to sign the papers and screw her over. She doesn’t like what my W is doing to me, and just in case you are wondering, there isn’t anything happening between her and I..I couldn’t do. I think that I could make some new friends while trying to break out my shell..
Okay, so last night really wasnt that bad until I got home. I really couldnt sleep..but what else is new. I have been thinking about what I need to do to make me happy and how I can get there. I have decided not to contact her and just focus on me, go out and have some fun. Dont get me wrong, I would love for her to come back to me but I can not focus on that. I need to focus on me, find out who I am and what I like to go again. Make myself attractive, fun and up to do anything. I am going to go shopping tomorrow and buy some new clothes, going to start tanning and continue to workout. I will no longer turn down requests to go out with friends or the other females. I will continue to work on my issues and weaknesses. I have enrolled in several classes for next quater and I am just going to focus on my life.
Your plan sounds great. Doing things for yourself if good. I'm so glad that you have a group of friends to go out with. That's a great way to get a PMA!
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Your plan sounds great. Doing things for yourself if good. I'm so glad that you have a group of friends to go out with. That's a great way to get a PMA!
That is the plan, let's just hope I can execute it. Really I only have friends to go out or hang out with during the weekends, the week days are lonely..
That might be a good time to join a gym. It would get you out of the house and be an oppurtunity to interact with others.
I currently work out at home, I have one of those total gyms and a tread mill. I know the whole purpose is to get out of the house and meet people but money is tight right now and I cant really afford another bill.
Originally Posted By: Yoyowife
Another thought is to find a jogging trail that is frequented by others. You'll get in great shape and your W will be saying wow, he looks hot.
Actually there is a trial a few miles away from my hosue and it is always packed with runners, bikers, roller bladers.. I agree it will be me in shape, but I dont know if my W would say that. I never see her, havent seen her in about 2-3 months..but I do hang out with her best friend sometimes and she could tell her...hummm..
Have a great time tonight! You're right it will get back to her about how great you are looking!
Thank yoyo I will. Her best friend text me and told me to call her when we go out cause she wants to meet up and hang out. I am hoping that all of my changes that are noticable are getting back to her..I hung out with her friend the other night and she told that I look different..in a good way...but not that she was coming onto me, we dont like each other that way.
