Way to go on the 'dark side of the Force'. Let it go to VM and only respond in an emergency. If she jumps up & down about it simply say 'I will be friendly to you, but not while you have OM, my only convo's will be about our children'.
Party went well.. OM showed up. It took every fiber in my being to stay under control.
I actually had to have a conversation with him. Good lord shoot me now.
It was embarrassing.. all the parents were mumbling about it. Not sure what they thought, but each one came up to me and said they were sorry about the situation and to let them know if I needed anything.
W actually asked at one point why I was being mean to her.. for the record, I wasn't being mean.. I was avoiding her unless it was necessary. Not obvious, but I had to.
Keep in mind.. his kids weren't there.. he was there for W.
W also got mad because I bought D5 a HM movie. I should have told her about it..
Whatever.. I'm proud of myself for handling the situation. I don't what to say anymore.
Are you freakin kidding me??? I cannot believe that he was there, that is just not appropriate. What a loser. her and him that is...
Im glad you composed yourself, you are the better man for it.
Its really sick how they operate. Its all about her... blah blah blah.. I can feel your dissapointment in your post though. I feel bad.. This has got to be really hard for you.
im glad the party went well for D's sake.
Hang in there, she so does not deserve any attention from you.
((hugs))
tal
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Wow, that's all I can say is WOW. I cannot believe he actually showed up and w/o his kids even! Obviously, she's still thinking about herself and not your girls or she would not have had him come. It could have been very ugly and totally ruined your D's bday party. I'm so very impressed w/ how you handled it. I know a lot of people would not have been able to do that!
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
Yeah Jar.... how did you not want to kick his ass? You are truly a strong human being. I admire your poise, very impressive. I think W brought him to try and get a reaction out of you, see if you still care.
Non-the-less..thats some BS! Im angry for you Jar!
Remember, your D's are watching your every move... when they get older, they will think back on how strong their daddy is and how your W was completely out of line.
Happy Birthday to your little girl! Cherish her at this age, they grow up quick!
Hurtin: 32 WAW: 30 D: 8 Bomb: 10/05 Sep: 12/05 Back together 8/07 Bomb (OM): 11/07 Filed for D (me): 12/07
Thanks again guys.. sorry for the short post. I brought the D's home to change D3 (after an accident) so we could head to party #2. Party #2 was much more enjoyable.
It was very embarrassing.. The men would be mumbling about him and stop when I walked by. It was almost as if everyone felt sorry for me. I don't need that..
It was a sports place.. Hurtin.. it was all I could do to keep from going and getting a bat from the batting cage and have some batting practice.
For the most part, he stayed out of sight.. for the most part. All the parents know him and his kids.
The hardest part came after everyone left and we were sorting presents (boy was that a joy) and he and I were the only ones left. I didn't know what to do.. he actually started the conversation.. asked about the place we had the party.
This guy actually carried on a conversation with me like it was just another day.
My face had to be red the entire day.. it was cool till he showed up.
W called later to talk to the D's. I was busy keeping them out of trouble. She started going on about how "WE" setup the toys at her house. Her and OM.. then got mad when I wasn't paying attention to her.
I have to be honest.. I'm floored by her lack of respect for me and the girls. She has no regard for my feelings while requiring me to care for hers like we are still together.
I honestly think everyone else at the party were just as dumbfounded as I was.
Luckily her friend that I now can't stand didn't show. She's a flake which is now her best friend.
Going to get the girls ready for bed.. kick back with a couple beers and watch some TV. I hope tomorrow is a quiet day.
Oh yeah.. W decided to straighten D3's hair.. she's known for her little curls. WTF?
Ok. Let me get this straight. Your W is having an A with this man. Just comes himself. He has children YET he doesn't bring them to a child's party. Just decides its appropriate to show up at a party that is thrown by someone who could take him down.......
Wow. Without words.
But.......
You know whose fault this is. Your wife. I am sure she encouraged him to go, said he has a 'right' to go. She is unbelievable, so disrespectful of you and your girls. And to prance around the party with OM and her H in the same room. Those people at the party probably think she is a fool. Of the three of you, YOU were the bigger, better person. W is an adulterer, and OM is a sleaze. You were the father of your beautiful 3 yr old. W is pathetic.
Don't beat yourself up for the people feeling sorry for you. Think about it, if you knew someone in your situation, you would feel sorry for them. Its not pity, its different.
Awful, terrible situation. I know what you mean about your face feeling red and flushed. When I end up in a room with OW, its almost impossible to breathe or smile. I am not kidding you when I say my face muscles don't work. HUGS to you.
Yep.. I was stunned.. completely stunned. How many people would feel comfortable looking down the barrel of a loaded gun?
I honestly think she made a complete ass of herself. I think most of the parents were disgusted. Just the impression I got.
Not that it matters. Just searching for some validation I guess.
I wonder what he was thinking? He couldn't have been comfortable. I'll give him credit though.. he tried to fit right in.. just like he belonged. 10lb balls. All I can say.
