well this place has gone up for sale today, it is a strange feeling to have your family home ripped out from underneath you, and to have the one man you thought loved you and your son do this to you. I have to say I do wonder what xh is feeling, how is he getting through the fact that he has turned his child out of his home. oh well, wont let it get me down, we are really excited about our move, and are planning it all for next weekend, and after that xh will be gone but not forgotten I suppose, but he will have to dig deeper to find his son, as and when needed.
hi folks, still busy busy moving but just had to have a bob on here, found it funny that after no sighting of xh for 7 months apart from the court case in august he was seen by a friend of mine sat outside the house, his house, on monday, he is either gloating at putting us out and putting it up for sale, or he could have had a kick in the gut and maybe felt a little guilt when he saw the sign and remembered he is kicking his son out of his home, anyhow come saturday we will be mostly gone just have to come back for the odd bits and post the key through the letterbox, at least we will be happy for xmas, wonder if he wil?
How could he be Happy on Christmas? No way. How does a person do this kind of thing? Seriousely. It's so messed up. You and your son are moving on to bigger and better things.
I read on someone's thread that God doesn't take away unless he replaces with something better. It gave me hope and I hope it does for you as well.
Hi all, the move went well, all we have to go back for is to clear the garage of our garden furniture and pick up all the plants that are in pots in the garden. Have to admit it is a bit freaky going back into the place where there is nothing left, no carpets or furnishings etc., although I think it will do xh good when he pops through the front door and it is just an empty shell. but we have a life to live and we will get on with it now in our new house and sit back and watch the show develop further, alas we are safe and he didn't manage to put us on the streets, although it came pretty close.
Hi all, the move went well, all we have to go back for is to clear the garage of our garden furniture and pick up all the plants that are in pots in the garden. Have to admit it is a bit freaky going back into the place where there is nothing left, no carpets or furnishings etc., although I think it will do xh good when he pops through the front door and it is just an empty shell. but we have a life to live and we will get on with it now in our new house and sit back and watch the show develop further, alas we are safe and he didn't manage to put us on the streets, although it came pretty close.
Mandyloo, to hell with him, once he sells the house and she spends the money and he is broke, she will throw him out. Mark it down!
believe me Braveheart that might not be too far into the future. I have been back up to xh's house today to get the things in order for the final moving tomorrow, when I arrived a letter was there from the bank for xh, funny how over the last two years the letters from his bank stopped coming to his property, anyhow the letter was to advise xh that he is in arrears with his mortgage payments. I cannot stress how much that was his first priority every month, if all else failed he would pay the mortgage and always told me the same, he said if you have to do without everything you always pay the mortgage on time, so I didn't believe his solicitor when he said he is struggling for cash, but it appears I was wrong, and whats more he is still partying on down with her and having IVF'S and holidays. I am in shock I cannot believe he as stooped to to the bottom level and is on the verge of having what was our family home repossessed by the bank, he as paid for that property for 21 years never been a problem and after all the money he inherited only 2 years ago, he is potless, and after tomorrow he as lost us 2 for good, oh dear oh dear it is a pity my son and I are so happy in our new home, see where he goes from here, his lovely wife had a house repossessed when she was married for the first time so she is guiding him down the same path.
Mandy, I'm very happy for you and your son that you found another place to live. Both of you will enjoy your new home and the upcoming holidays. It may take a while, not to miss the old place, but at the end of the day, this is your home and you do not need to worry about being constantly on pins and needles wondering when he would contact you again about moving. He has absolutely no power/control over your lives any longer.
As for him, well...he's not only going to be potless, but homelenss as well since he continues down the road of self-destruction. The wifey will leave him high and dry once there's nothing left to spend and the bill collectors begin to knock on their door for the money. She's going to be leaving him very soon when the going gets rough.
The future for you and your son looks wonderful. A new place to call home, a new beginning and who knows what is in store for you both in the new year--life can only go up for you and your son.
Enjoy the holiday season, for I think the new year will be so much more promising for you both.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Hi Mandyloo, so pleased for you and your son, new place, new begining, less grief in a place you can make home.
I don't know what it is with our H's, I just can't connect with what he is doing. H is now in contact with both sons, it has taken 11 months. Yet from listening he still doesn't get it, he repeatedly asked the youngest what he had done wrong, he repeatedly lied throughout the convo. He remains deep in what ever he is in to.
I try not to think about the money he has spent in the last two years it is outragious and we haven't seen a penny of it. In reading the papers he put before the court you would think he was a victim, If I read them I would judge his W as a money grabbing bitch. He tells a good tale, he paints a good picture but the fact remains he has blown 4x his salary in less than 2 years, with little to show. I nor his sons have recieved it.
the family home is desperate for essential repairs yet I can't touch it or afford to due to the court case.
It just goes from bad to worse and all the time it is, the lawyers get their cut.
Why does the MLCer suddenly mistrust the whole professional world as well as themselves. H is contesting every professional valuation and decision put forward, if I didn't know better I'd think he was stalling. He thinks our assets are worth twice as much, Ah I wish they were.
Why does the MLCer suddenly mistrust the whole professional world as well as themselves.
'Cause they're freaking nuts, that's why!? Suddenly, everything they held to be true and desirable becomes poison to them. They become paranoic, thinking everyone is out to get them. Unfortunately, the only people out to get them, are the one's they turn to for fun, and 'love'... i.e. their so-called 'soulmates' the OW, and new 'friends', who often quickly desert our poor MLC'er when the money runs out, or they emerge from the nightmare and realise what they've lost and become depressed, and not so fun anymore.
Mandyloo, I am so pleased you and your son are out of the whole drama. Who knows when your XH will wake up, or if he ever will. There is nothing worse then a fool, then a fool who remains in perpetual ignorance, but perhaps these MLCers deliberately do that, because they don't want to face the person they have become.
Take care, and enjoy your new digs.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
