That poor man, especially having to go through this sh$$ twice. What a trollop. Knowone deserves that kind of treatment. I hope he finds someone else who is the love of his life.
As for you... keep a look out.. if she gets served next wk then she may start putting pressure on your H.. I hope he doesn't crack for your sake..
Have a good day!
tal
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Here's how I see it playing out: She is going to panic. This will be an absolute shock to her. She will turn her attention to her husband, while at the same time trying to hold on to yours.... and your husband will see right through it. He will not want to get strung along.
Better fasten that seat belt, honey. There's turbulence ahead...
I agree with mark on most of it, but honestly I don't think your h will see thru it. I think she'll try her damndest to play both sides still for a bit. I actually wonder if she'll even tell your h that she was served. I guess because I have no experience with this at all...in my case, the ow was already divorced. but my thoughts are if your h's ow wanted out, she would have left her h a while ago. something is keeping them in their marriages (your h and her). either they aren't ready for reality (secret romance is sooo fun and all that crap), or they don't quite trust each other, or they know they are screwed money wise and haven't got their ducks in a row quite yet. and yeah, there is always the possibility that they aren't quite ready to cut ties with their spouses yet. funny how that is my last thought. god, I'm jaded.
I absolutely agree that its time to fasten your seatbelt, though, lwb.
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screwed money wise and haven't got their ducks in a row quite yet.
Oh I have no idea how they would make it, seriously. It must kill my H to not be making good money. I honestly feel for him in that realm, and don't want that keeping him here.
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And make sure that your seat back and tray table are in the full upright and locked position...
Well, then, I'll need a sippy cup of beer...
Another OW fun fact. After the first A, she wanted to have an open marriage. OW's H agreed to this out of desparation, then changed his mind after thinking about it for more than 3 minutes. She was really mad he changed his mind.
And about OW and my H trusting each other, we have decided (the 'we' being me and OW's H) that they think they are different, above the norm, they have what it takes to make it work...
And SallyM, you are right. H has stuck around this long with hopes of even glimpsing OW (school, library, etc), I don't see why he wouldn't believe her "I'm staying with my husband, but I still love you" stuff.
Another OW fun fact. After the first A, she wanted to have an open marriage. OW's H agreed to this out of desparation, then changed his mind after thinking about it for more than 3 minutes. She was really mad he changed his mind.
Wow, can you say marriage of convenience? Talking about wanting your cake and eating it to! Sounds like she's just in a marriage for the money. This could come back to bite her in the arse!
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